What do you call your inlaws?

[popcornbird]

I'm so much like you, in the sense that I was confused at the beginning about what to call my in-laws, and resorted to calling them nothing. That eventually became a problem, because when I would talk to my father-in-law on the phone, I didn't know how to ask him if I could talk to my mother-in-law. Calling her by her name would be considered rude and unacceptable in my culture, so that was a no no. Calling her 'hubby's mom' would once again be rude. I couldn't say, "May I please speak to the lady?" Even "May I please talk to my mother-in-law" sounds strange. SO...in the end, I gave in, decided that calling someone 'else' Mom and Dad was not going to kill me, and just started calling them what my husband calls them. He calls his mom and dad "Ammi" and "Abba"...which is not what I call my parents, so I still felt there was a difference, and I wasn't calling them the same thing as my parents.......so it worked for me. It also made them happy, and made them feel more like I'm like their daughter, so I guess its worth it.

My hubby also calls my parents what I call them "Mama" and "Baba". My mom didn't like when he called them nothing (he also went through a 'what should I call them?' phase like me), and I understood my mom's feelings. That's another reason why I started calling my in-laws "Ammi and Abba". I felt that if its disrespectful for my husband to call my parents nothing, its disrespectful for me to call his parents nothing. So together, we both started referring to our in-laws as our moms and dads, and eventually, it just increased the bond between us. I WANTED my husband to refer to my parents as his parents, so I guess I just had to expect the same from myself.

[sparks19]

I explained to my mother in law my wierd quirk about the mom and dad thing... while I'm sure she thinks I'm completely out there she understood. but NOW having Hannah I mostly refer to them as Grammy and Grandad and they seem to like that lol

[Logan]

As mine is a second marriage, this time around, I call my inlaws by their first names, at their request. It is Ann (my husband's mother), Bill (my husband's father) and Norma (my husband's stepmother). And he calls my parents by their first names, too.

[BitsyNaceyDog]

I also try to avoid calling them anything when talking to them. My sister is close to my in-laws and she calls them Mom and Dad, yet I'm a little uncomfortable with it. (My in-laws call my sister their "adopted daughter". When I became a part of their family she did too. ) Really though it depends on who I'm talking to. When talking to my husband I call them "your parents". If I'm talking to Nathan I call them Grandma and Grandpa. If I'm talking to my sister I refer to them as Mom Blake and Dad Blake. If I'm talking to someone who knows them personally I refer to them by their first names. If I'm talking to someone who doesn't know them I call them "Justin's parents" or "my in-laws".

[crazyboutanimals]

when i first started dating my hubby ( 6 years ago), i called them by their names ( Becky and Glen). then for a while they hated me ( like every parent of a soo good looking man does ) then recently i have been using whatever i feel most comfortable. My hubby's mom is getting use to talking to me know, LMAO, in fact this last week she told her son that she wanted to talk to me about sending her something. LOL .. she said she did not trust her son to send her the important documents that she needed for his taxes. LOL, that made me feel good as well.

it took along time for them to feel comfortable around me and my son. she does accept Brady as her grandson now. but, as for me, it took more time.

i think it all depends on who the person is. like their personality, and upbringing. Jeremy's dad Glen is very business like and loves to us Full names and all the uptight stuff. whereas Becky, ( his mom) is more like the get it done type of person, she likes to use names but, more like nicknames.

either way, i think you will be fine calling them grammy and grandad