Mother-in-law vent

[mina'smomma]

Hey Jen just be glad your MIL isn't like my girlfriend's. Her's threaten to evicet her, her husband and their two month old son in December because they wouldn't buy the trailer they're renting from her.

I have to admit. I love my MIL I just get annoyed with the people around me who hassle me about the way I care for my daughter. I get told I'm a terrible mother because I feed my daughter about 4 teaspoons of rice ceral a day because if I don't she'll drink anywhere from 12 - 16 oz bottles every two hours. By the way her doctor has okayed the rice ceral because of her size and she is more developed than a normal 15 week old is.

[Medusa]

My late mother-in-law could be quite a handful, to be sure. We didn't agree on much of anything. I was divorced w/a 5 year old son and that isn't exactly the picture she had in her mind for her son to marry. We even had several years where we didn't speak at all and during the holidays when we would visit my BIL and SIL, my MIL would walk out of the room if I was there. But years passed and we both wised up and now she's gone, her son and I are divorced and it all seems so silly now. I'd give anything for a do over. I know this probably isn't what you want to hear and, believe me, I do empathize w/you because when you're experiencing it, it's irritating and you don't want to cause a rift between your husband and his mom. Just know that "this too shall pass" and I've learned through the years to ask myself "Is it true? Is it kind? Is it necessary?" If it isn't true or kind, then it certainly isn't necessary to say anything. This has helped me w/my (then) severe case of "foot in mouth disease".

[gini]

My own MIL used to tell me about her own in-laws when she was raising her kids. They all had something to say about everything. She said that she used to thank them for the advice - not say anything snippy - and after they left


SHE DID AS SHE D___ WELL PLEASED!

[Catty1]

Hmmm....might it be worth asking the MILs about THEIR MILs?

[Glacier]

Occasionally, I am grateful my mother in law doesn't know I exist or where we live!

[JenBKR]

Thanks everyone! I talked to Shawn about this and he said that she has always had an opinion about everything and he has just learned to tune her out. Guess that's what I have to do. I do feel bad for her, I think that she is a very bitter woman. I did ask Shawn to speak up a little more, and he agreed. I know some of the things she has done with my nieces (for example, she told one of my nieces that her other grandma is bad and mean, and that she didn't have to follow her parents rules if she didn't want to) and I don't really want to deal with that either. Hopefully she's more mature than that now but I'm not sure.....

[Laura's Babies]

You could use the line my daughter uses on me on just about everythign we talk about... "MAMA! Times have CHANGED!"

[Husky_mom]

uurggghhh!.. I hate when they "think" the only rules for a kid to follow are theirs... I mean I understand that they don´t have the responsability of raising them and want to spoil them as they could not do with their own... but then it leaves US to deal with the indiscipline they are promoting!!

it´s ok to spoil their grandkids but don´t belittle their parents rules.. just reinforce them !! is that toomuch to ask?.....