Mother-in-law vent

[Pawsitive Thinking]

Tell her "you know.... HE (your husband) survived all the mistakes you made with him and my baby will survive all the mistakes I make. They don't come with a manual so we do the best we can!"

Well said! I would add to that "thank you for your input but when I want your advice I will ask for it"

You should talk to Shawn about it Jen and ask him to tell her to back off. You are doing great with little Ty because you are his Mommy

[beeniesmom]

Do what I do with my own mom or MIL:

Whatever the circumstance:

"Oh yes, thanks for the imput, that is probably a great way to do blabla etc ... but I prefer blabla.

Call me stubborn but I like to do things my way... which is not necessarily wrong!

[mina'smomma]

Hey Jen just be glad your MIL isn't like my girlfriend's. Her's threaten to evicet her, her husband and their two month old son in December because they wouldn't buy the trailer they're renting from her.

I have to admit. I love my MIL I just get annoyed with the people around me who hassle me about the way I care for my daughter. I get told I'm a terrible mother because I feed my daughter about 4 teaspoons of rice ceral a day because if I don't she'll drink anywhere from 12 - 16 oz bottles every two hours. By the way her doctor has okayed the rice ceral because of her size and she is more developed than a normal 15 week old is.

[Medusa]

My late mother-in-law could be quite a handful, to be sure. We didn't agree on much of anything. I was divorced w/a 5 year old son and that isn't exactly the picture she had in her mind for her son to marry. We even had several years where we didn't speak at all and during the holidays when we would visit my BIL and SIL, my MIL would walk out of the room if I was there. But years passed and we both wised up and now she's gone, her son and I are divorced and it all seems so silly now. I'd give anything for a do over. I know this probably isn't what you want to hear and, believe me, I do empathize w/you because when you're experiencing it, it's irritating and you don't want to cause a rift between your husband and his mom. Just know that "this too shall pass" and I've learned through the years to ask myself "Is it true? Is it kind? Is it necessary?" If it isn't true or kind, then it certainly isn't necessary to say anything. This has helped me w/my (then) severe case of "foot in mouth disease".

[gini]

My own MIL used to tell me about her own in-laws when she was raising her kids. They all had something to say about everything. She said that she used to thank them for the advice - not say anything snippy - and after they left


SHE DID AS SHE D___ WELL PLEASED!

[Catty1]

Hmmm....might it be worth asking the MILs about THEIR MILs?

[Glacier]

Occasionally, I am grateful my mother in law doesn't know I exist or where we live!

[Husky_mom]

uurggghhh!.. I hate when they "think" the only rules for a kid to follow are theirs... I mean I understand that they don´t have the responsability of raising them and want to spoil them as they could not do with their own... but then it leaves US to deal with the indiscipline they are promoting!!

it´s ok to spoil their grandkids but don´t belittle their parents rules.. just reinforce them !! is that toomuch to ask?.....