He knows you're there for him if he needs you and that's what counts. He's like a lot of men; they like to be left alone when they're sick. My father was a real tough guy. When he got sick, he'd say "I'm going into the bedroom. Don't come in. I'll come out when I'm better". And he meant it. I'm the same way. When I had jaw surgery years ago, I was in so much pain that I just wanted to lie in bed in agony and not talk. My (then) husband, God love him, checked on me every half hour. He was only concerned about me but it drove me nuts. Don't take it personally w/Mike. That's just his way and you have your way. It'll be ok.