What do you think??

[Laura's Babies]

I was wondering how it was working out for you since you were suppose to move after I left.

What I would do is put the price I paid for the item on everything and let her know if she ate it, she pays for it and it comes out of her rent money if she don't replace it immediately.

Don't she understand your medical problem? She needs to understand FULLY your diet and the consequenses (for you) of not staying on it. Make her understand to her it is only food, to you is is your life and to you, that is nothing anybody has any right to mess with! I would have to ask her if she even realizes how lucky she is to be able to eat what she wants.

I think it is extreemly RUDE of her to be doing that and you are right about locking up your valueables. I would buy a cabinet to put in my room to keep my food in and put a lock on it. Boy, I would feel like a real low life if a room mate of mine felt like they had to lock everything up away from me... but I am a honest person.

I have had room mates that stole from me and ran up my bills so my experiences with having them have not been good (they moved into my home). People just do not respect other peoples property anymore.

[moosmom]

Get a small dorm size fridge and put all your food (perishables) in there. Since your bedroom has a lock on it, lock up everything you don't want missing, such as drugs, food, ANYTHING you think she might want to "borrow". If she doesn't like it, too bad.

You might also want to label everything with your name. Like Craftlady said, maybe that's the reason why she's had so many roommates.

[jackie]

You have talked to her, just wait and see if it happens again. If it does, then you might have to speak to her again.

Until then, don't start locking your food away, it may make it awkward to live with her after.

[ChrisH]

I agree with Jackie, wait and see what happens.

[Daisy and Delilah]

I agree with Jackie and Chris.

My first reaction was to think how incredibly rude that was. After reading some of the other's responses it made me think otherwise. I can understand if there was no verbal or written agreement then maybe she thought it was okay. To me, it seems that it's just good manners and consideration to not help yourself to someone elses things without permission. I also know that everyone does not think alike.

Now that you've mentioned it to her, I think it would be nice to go out and replace the items she took. Isn't that the polite way?

Kelly, I hope this doesn't continue because I know we are all so happy to know that you were finally getting a break and on the road to happiness.

{{{{{HUGS}}}}}

[jennielynn1970]

How is it going with the roomie?? I was reading this and thinking back to my roommates that I had in the past, and unless it was milk, butter, things like that, we stuck to our own food that we bought. If we had a dinner party or something, then we'd shop together and split the cost, but other than that, we ate what we bought. Now, my 3rd roommate was a little different, but that was because she had other issues as well. She would take advantage of what she could (like not paying rent, utility bills, and she was also a drug user and alcoholic... it was SO much fun!).

I hope your roommate will show you some courtesy and, unless you both agree to share the food and you eat her things as well, then she needs to stick to her part of the fridge. Otherwise she's just being manipulative and inconsiderate.

[NoahsMommy]

Hey there,

I'm so sorry I haven't been back to update. I'm in a serious Crohn's Attack (FABULOUS TIMING!!!!) and this is the first time I've been able to get to the office to get online.

The very next day I returned home from work to see a grocery back of nearly ALL the food she'd eaten replaced. It brought tears to my eyes because you all know me, I felt bad. Ugh, I'm so lame! I shouldn't feel bad! I wasn't mean and I let it go for longer than it needed to. She KNOWS all about my condition and my immediate need for certain items.

You are all correct, the issue wasn't taking the food, it was NOT ASKING me.

Things are better now. She's not eating my food, so that's nice.

When I told her that I didn't bring this "issue" up with her to get groceries out of it, she said, "I know, it was the right thing to do.". So she obviously knows it was wrong.

The more I learn about her, she's nice and a cool girl, but I think our age difference really dictates how we act and make decisions on everything. I've never lived with a roommate before, so this is new for me. It sure is interesting!

Furballs are doing very well and are HAPPY as little clams. I love them dearly. Yeturday Micah jumped in the shower with me! I'd forgotten about his little love for water...it was so cute, I spent my entire shower laughing so hard I was crying! I love those little fluffballs!

Love you guys,
Kelly

[CountryWolf07]

I agree with Jackie, wait and see what happens.

Ditto. I agree.