Crystal, I think Hubby needs a smack up the side of the head, and you need to draw some boundaries while you are unwell.

Does he really 'want' you to do all this housework, or are you doing it without mentioning the pain you are in? See about having a professional cleaner come in once a week - because you HURT too much.

If you want to give up on something, give up on accepting less than the best for yourself.

1 - 2 days FMLA per MONTH???? How about some longer-term disability?

And how about some short-term counselling for yourself? You have migraines, now your arm is killing you, and that takes a toll on your emotions.

Don't give up; get angry and push for what YOU need. You come first.

HUGS!