What do you think??

[Medusa]

You'll probably have to spell out exactly what is off limits. If you have specific shelves, etc., then those are your shelves and your possessions belong on them. I don't care for the casual way people sometimes regard other people's possessions. If you don't get permission, it isn't borrowing, it's stealing. Of course, generosity is a wonderful trait and should be encouraged. But if you specifically state what is not to be touched and/or eaten, then that's the way it should be. If she continues w/this behavior, then you have your answer.

[Craftlady]

Maybe that's why she has trouble keeping roommates?

[CamCamPup33]

I definitely think it's a little rude. It would bother me solely for the fact that she was taking things without asking first. Like you said, it wouldn't be such a big deal if she just ASKED. And even if she doesn't ask, she should take in moderation..not eat the entire box of granola bars or eat the majority of the cookies.

Maybe she didn't offer an apology or an explanation because she was embarrassed about the whole thing, or maybe she just doesn't find it to be that big of a deal.

Either way, you've expressed that it bothers you, now all you can do is wait it out and if she continues to do it, thats when you snap!

Good luck!!

[krazyaboutkatz]

Kelly, I'm sorry to hear that this is happening. I've had this happen to me a few times with one of my past roommates and I just confronted her and she even went out and bought me some more of what she had eaten. I think that you just need to confront her right away if this happens again.

Hopefully you'll be able to work this out. Until then, I'd at least keep your essential food locked up in your room. I'd also keep all other valuables locked up or hidden away. You can never be too safe or trusting of other people. Good luck.

[dukedogsmom]

I don't know what to think except I'm disappointed that this is happening and you've hardly been there. I hope it doesn't continue.

[catnapper]

I think she's the kind of person who will try to get away with something for as long as she can. Certainly she knows its wrong to take your food, but figures that if you're not saying anything, then why not take your food instead of hers?

Watch out for shampoo, hair gel, perfume, etc levels. My one roomate in college liked to use my stuff instead of hers simply because she could get away with it.

You've had the conversation. Let it go for now and watch things.

[Pawsitive Thinking]

How about agreeing to a shelf or two each for your own foodstuffs and then have a "communal" shelf where you can put stuff for sharing