What do you think??

[kuhio98]

Kelly ~ I'm sorry, honey, but I don't think it's weird UNLESS you had an agreement beforehand not to eat each other's food. Did you have the agreement? Or is it something you just assumed?

Can you guys agree that a certain shelf in the fridge and cabinet are for your food only?

Now if it continues to happen after you've had this conversation, then I think it's weird. You've made it clear that it bugs you and why it does.

It could be that she has never been on a tight budget so it just never occured to her that it could be a problem.

[NoahsMommy]

Can you guys agree that a certain shelf in the fridge and cabinet are for your food only?

It could be that she has never been on a tight budget so it just never occured to her that it could be a problem.

When I moved in, we each picked 2 shelves in the pantry and 2 shelves in the fridge. We didn't outright say, "PLEASE DONT EAT MY FOOD". But she's lived in 4 other roommate situations before. Most of her food (jars and cans) have her initials on them, so I'm pretty sure she knows that its not normal to just take someone else's food unless its offered to her.

We've even gone grocery shopping together and we had separate shopping carts and paid separately. I don't know how on earth she would have thought that it is OK to just take my food. ESPECIALLY since I'm not taking ANY of hers.

I agree, if it happens again, after I've spoken to her about it, I'll be mad. Not until then. I hope high hopes that she'll listen to me.

Hugs, Kelly

[Medusa]

You'll probably have to spell out exactly what is off limits. If you have specific shelves, etc., then those are your shelves and your possessions belong on them. I don't care for the casual way people sometimes regard other people's possessions. If you don't get permission, it isn't borrowing, it's stealing. Of course, generosity is a wonderful trait and should be encouraged. But if you specifically state what is not to be touched and/or eaten, then that's the way it should be. If she continues w/this behavior, then you have your answer.

[Craftlady]

Maybe that's why she has trouble keeping roommates?

[CamCamPup33]

I definitely think it's a little rude. It would bother me solely for the fact that she was taking things without asking first. Like you said, it wouldn't be such a big deal if she just ASKED. And even if she doesn't ask, she should take in moderation..not eat the entire box of granola bars or eat the majority of the cookies.

Maybe she didn't offer an apology or an explanation because she was embarrassed about the whole thing, or maybe she just doesn't find it to be that big of a deal.

Either way, you've expressed that it bothers you, now all you can do is wait it out and if she continues to do it, thats when you snap!

Good luck!!

[krazyaboutkatz]

Kelly, I'm sorry to hear that this is happening. I've had this happen to me a few times with one of my past roommates and I just confronted her and she even went out and bought me some more of what she had eaten. I think that you just need to confront her right away if this happens again.

Hopefully you'll be able to work this out. Until then, I'd at least keep your essential food locked up in your room. I'd also keep all other valuables locked up or hidden away. You can never be too safe or trusting of other people. Good luck.

[dukedogsmom]

I don't know what to think except I'm disappointed that this is happening and you've hardly been there. I hope it doesn't continue.