Bunny,

There is nothing worse than a stubborn, ornery old man who refuses give up his independence and accept help. Sounds just like my Dad did. Are you SURE we're not sisters????

Seriously though, I do understand what you're going through. My father was so stubborn. Wanted to live alone (after stepmom died) with his cat, which put a whole lot of stress and burden on me. I worked 40-60 hours a week as a paralegal then had to go and care for my Dad. Not only did it take a toll on my health and depression, it also caused alot of resentment because, on top of all this, my Dad was a serious alcoholic. After years of trying to get him to go to an AA meeting, I stopped arguing. When he died 10 years ago, as much as I love and miss him, I was relieved, which is what my therapist said would happen.

Please take care of yourself. You will be no good to your Dad or anyone else if your health fails. You've got my number, call me.

(((((HUGS))))))))