I can't pull myself together....

[Medusa]

:::I met a great guy the first of December, and everything was going great... until I had my breast cancer scare, and then he was gone. No explanation, nothing. Won't return my calls, won't answer the phone when I call. I know that it was too soon to tell, but I felt like he could have been the man I have been looking for all my life. I was so scared, because it seemed so right. He said the same thing. We tried to go slow with everything, but we both felt so "whole" when we were together. I miss him so much, and with no closure, I just can't get past it all.

A "man" (and I use the term loosely) who would turn tail and run at the first sign of illness is not the one for you. We say things in the first blush of romance that we wouldn't ordinarily say. He is NOT a great guy, he is a coward. Someone who won't take phone calls or return them is someone who's going to look around one day and wonder where HIS support system is. And guess what. He won't have one. I'm sorry that this happened to you but better now than later. Rip the bandaid off; it stings for a little while and then it's over. Now you can heal. Leave this guy in your dust and take care of yourself. You've been through enough. I'm praying that you get your meds all straightened out and that you'll realize just how strong you really are.

[ramanth]

I have no advice, but I'm sorry to hear you are going through rough times. I hope they get better soon. *HUGS*

[Pawsitive Thinking]

Again, no advice but lots of PT love and support for you - give yourself time and you will get through this

[lizbud]

I have no advice, but I'm sorry to hear you are going through rough times. I hope they get better soon. *HUGS*

Same here. I don't know much about various RX drugs so I can't help
with that, but your Dr should work with you to ease you over this.I do
hope you feel better soon.

[krazyaboutkatz]

I'm sorry to hear that you're going through all of this. I hope that your doctor will be able to help get you on the right doseage and the correct medicine for you and I hope you start feeling better soon. Please take care and remember that you have many people here for emotional support.

You're better off without a man than with a man that runs away as soon as there's a crisis.

[shepgirl]

Donna---you are talking about depression only. If you have a simple depression caused by a chemical imbalance then the Tegretol is not the drug for you. It's main use is for manic depression and bipolar and you didn't mention these so I assumed that you didn't have those problems. I was taking Tegretol for trigeminal pain on one side of my head and face, they helped tremendously but because they made me so depressed I had to quit them.
I know where you are coming from, my daughter suffers depression and is taking celexa, she gets like this every winter and I see what it does to her...those pills are not to be stopped abruptly either, she gets weaned off over a period of one month. She wants to try and get through next winter without the pills but I don't know iof she will be able to, but time will tell.
In the meantime, loving your furfriends and keeping them close to you is a good remedy as is going for walks, shopping or visiting friends.
I'm sorry you are going through this but I feel you should go back on the celexa and talk to your doctor about some kind of financial aid. The right drug is very important in treating depresion.
As for the "great guy" you thought you had, better to find out he's not sogreat before wasting more time on him...in my eyes he wasn't for you if he ran at the first sign of trouble.

[moosmom]

Shepgirl,

Great advice!!

[smokey the elder]

The combination of going off Effexor cold turkey and changing to a med which might not be right for you probably isn't helping. It stinks that your insurance won't cover Effexor at a reasonable rate. These yahoos trying to practice medicine without a license burn me up. Unfortunately, depression is tough to treat, and it can take a long time to find meds that work, and a therapy that works. Anyway, you don't need my rant; you need some hugs, and here they come. {{Hugs}}.

[moosmom]

When I had to go off Effexor, my doctor also started me on something else to kind of make the withdrawal less annoying.