i need to get this out

[micki76]

Gayle, I know we don't know each other, but you have to make this stop. Abusers RARELY stop the abuse, even if the addiction (in this case drinking) stops. Alcohol doesn't make him hurt you, he does that because there's something wrong inside him. The alcohol simply unleashes the monster within. And it's likely that he will become MORE abusive without it.

PLEASE get help before something horrible happens.

[jennielynn1970]

Has anyone heard from Gayle?? I'm hoping she's ok. I'm worried since she hasn't posted in days!

[Catty1]

I still have an unconfirmed PM receipt for a message I sent her about the time she first posted here.

I hope she is busy getting herself out of there...but lately when I hear the Calgary news and a body is discovered, I shudder. They've all been male, so far...

I have one remote possible connection I can try...Gayle has put up with this for a few years - I hope she gets out for good this time.

[Twisterdog]

Abusers RARELY stop the abuse, even if the addiction (in this case drinking) stops. Alcohol doesn't make him hurt you, he does that because there's something wrong inside him. The alcohol simply unleashes the monster within. And it's likely that he will become MORE abusive without it.

Excellent point. Very true.

[Catty1]

Gayle, PLEASE check in. We're worried!

[Laura's Babies]

They ALWAY make promises they will not keep. If this is a ongoing thing, you know he will not change and you have probably heard all his promises before and knows he will not keep any of them. Going back only invites the next time to happen and I think you have already seen it only gets worse, each beating worse than the one before. You can spend the rest of your life walking on egg shells waiting for the next beating to happen or get out and possiably save your life. If you stay, you know what your future will be.

[elizabethann]

OMG. I just saw this post. This is awful! I hope this woman is okay. I am sending you a hug and Fenway is giving you a kiss on the cheecks. Please take care of yourself. Be strong and be well.

[Catty1]

Gayle's ok! Please see these two posts:

http://petoftheday.com/talk/showthread.php?t=139764 POST #21

http://petoftheday.com/talk/showthread.php?t=139826

[luckies4me]

Having been the victim of domestic violence several times (not for a couple of years thank god!) I will tell you that they do not stop. They need help! Not only can they hurt you, but others as well, and themselves. When I was 19 my boyfriend at the time tried to kill me. I got away with minor injuries (he held me in his bedroom tied to a bed for weeks) and was able to get him arrested. Even then I didn't press charges because I was so scared. He told me he would find me wherever I went, and sure enough a year or so later he showed up at my work, in another city! He has since tried to kill his brother and cousin.

My last domestic violence relationship was harder, because we remained friends even after what he did to me, as he had problems. All he needed was help, and no one gave it to him. He took his life about a month ago. I saw him the day before he commited suicide, in front of his mother.

Domestic Violence is no joke. Please please protect yourself. If this man loved you he would never hit you. Please find a safe place to go and leave him. I'm very worried about you.