i need to get this out

[pitc9]

I keep coming back to post but never know what to say, I don't feel right telling her things that I should be doing as well.

So for now Gayle... do I as I say and not as I do....

Sure.. it will get better... then it will go back to the same ****. Time after time after time. It is a loosing battle, but you don't have it fight it alone.

The first thing you need to do is LEAVE!

{{HUGS}}

[dukedogsmom]

I, too, was married to an ***. I didn't receive physical but there was lots of verbal abuse and he was very controlling. Duke and his poor dog received lots of physical violence. It made me sick. Made me feel like a coward because I couldn't protect them, like I allowed it. Please realise it's not your fault. I hope you can find the courage and strength to get out of this. There should be a shelter in your area that will allow you and your animals. Do you have any friends or family that can help? Please check in with us.

[loveallfurryfriends]

Just checking in. Just want Gayle to know that she is in my thoughts.

[micki76]

Gayle, I know we don't know each other, but you have to make this stop. Abusers RARELY stop the abuse, even if the addiction (in this case drinking) stops. Alcohol doesn't make him hurt you, he does that because there's something wrong inside him. The alcohol simply unleashes the monster within. And it's likely that he will become MORE abusive without it.

PLEASE get help before something horrible happens.

[jennielynn1970]

Has anyone heard from Gayle?? I'm hoping she's ok. I'm worried since she hasn't posted in days!

[Catty1]

I still have an unconfirmed PM receipt for a message I sent her about the time she first posted here.

I hope she is busy getting herself out of there...but lately when I hear the Calgary news and a body is discovered, I shudder. They've all been male, so far...

I have one remote possible connection I can try...Gayle has put up with this for a few years - I hope she gets out for good this time.

[Twisterdog]

Abusers RARELY stop the abuse, even if the addiction (in this case drinking) stops. Alcohol doesn't make him hurt you, he does that because there's something wrong inside him. The alcohol simply unleashes the monster within. And it's likely that he will become MORE abusive without it.

Excellent point. Very true.

[Catty1]

Gayle, PLEASE check in. We're worried!

[Laura's Babies]

They ALWAY make promises they will not keep. If this is a ongoing thing, you know he will not change and you have probably heard all his promises before and knows he will not keep any of them. Going back only invites the next time to happen and I think you have already seen it only gets worse, each beating worse than the one before. You can spend the rest of your life walking on egg shells waiting for the next beating to happen or get out and possiably save your life. If you stay, you know what your future will be.