How do you decide what to do at a crossroads in your life?

[cassiesmom]

I read a book that profoundly changed how I make decisions - it's called "Joy is My Compass" (by Alan Cohen). Joy is what guides me in deciding what will bring me the greater satisfaction with my life. If I'm thinking about two directions to go, I go with the one that feels more joyful & light -- it's where my heart will be.

The journey (even if it looks longer or harder) will not be a burden when your heart is light.

Cyber-Sibes, I'm reading a book by Alan Cohen now called "Why Your Life Sucks - And What You Can Do About It"


Pembroke Corgi, I do both. I hate making big decisions because I'm always afraid I'll make the wrong choice, so I sit down and make a do it/don't do it list and that usually helps me to see it one way or the other.

About flipping a coin - I've read that a coin toss can be effective because it can make you realize which one you're preferring.

I have a co-worker who always says "Better the devil you know than the one you don't" if that helps you at all.

[CountryWolf07]

I will be at a crossroad next spring - after I graduate from the Ohio State Univ. and if I am with Mike still, I may possibly consider something. I just feel that Mike is "it" for me right now, but who knows a year later?

[Cinder & Smoke]

... if I am with Mike still ...

GOOD GRIEF!! "*IF*" ??

Will you STOP *obsessing* over the possibility of breaking up!?
Geepers-Kreeperz ... keep it up and it might happen!

Just ENJOY your relationship with Mike ~ and STOP *worrying* about it!

Enjoy ! ENJOY! ... (And you'll BOTH be Happier Campers!)

[CountryWolf07]

GOOD GRIEF!! "*IF*" ??

Will you STOP *obsessing* over the possibility of breaking up!?
Geepers-Kreeperz ... keep it up and it might happen!

Just ENJOY your relationship with Mike ~ and STOP *worrying* about it!

Enjoy ! ENJOY! ... (And you'll BOTH be Happier Campers!)

Oh no, I didn't mean it like that at all! What I meant was, "if", is that, life is full of surprises and you just never know. Of course I'm enjoying my relationship with Mike! We both are happy. I'm not worried. I have no reason to be.

By the way, I *do* worry too much, mainly more with school/graduation. Mike is my motivation, last night he told me he was happy to see me make it through another quarter and it'll be soon over enough.

[Cinder & Smoke]

What I meant was, "if", is that, life is full of surprises and you just never know.

... I *do* worry too much ...

Exactly my point!!

DON'T worry ~~~ BE HAPPY!!

Now TRY it!

[emily_the_spoiled]

I have used a book called "What colour is your parachute?" It is helpful in that it makes you think of your choices through many different lenses and it tries to get you to consider the pros and cons of a decision.

But having said that, I have learned that getting additional education is usually worth it and I have never regretted my decisions to go to university (3 times).

[Barbara]

I never found lists of pros and cons especially helpful.
But if you really listen to yourself- you may find out that you know already.
I have often been in the situation that I tried to push myself in a certain direction with very good rational arguments and was in an in-between situation for quite some time.... and then I noticed that someone deep inside me had already taken the decision and it was opposed to the good arguments- but it always was the right decision
Trust yourself- you'll know