Quote Originally Posted by robinh
Years ago, my ex-husband did the same thing to me. It took a long time and quite a bit of therapy for me to understand that the only way he could feel better was to make me feel worse. I remember finally understanding that I couldn't do day to day coping - sometimes I had to do minute to minute. I repeated it over and over, "I'm OK right now and I'm working on being OK for the next minute."
Exactly! I hope I never let anyone have that much power over my happiness again. Having said that, it was a dark place and hard to pull myself out of it. One day I woke up and it was like something smacked me in the head and I thought, "No more." That very day I started telling myself that I was a good person and that I could do anything I set my mind to. Positive reinforcement works. Tell yourself you're the best you that you can be, even if you don't believe it. You will.