Get Well Wishes for Robin (RobiLee)

[robinh]

I don't post often, but I had to let you know I am thinking of you and praying for you every day.

Years ago, my ex-husband did the same thing to me. It took a long time and quite a bit of therapy for me to understand that the only way he could feel better was to make me feel worse. I remember finally understanding that I couldn't do day to day coping - sometimes I had to do minute to minute. I repeated it over and over, "I'm OK right now and I'm working on being OK for the next minute."

At that time, he had separated me from all my friends and I felt so alone. Please know that there are many people here that are praying for you and are willing to talk anytime you need a friend. You are NOT alone. You need only reach out and someone will reach back.

Many hugs go to you and the furkids.

Robin

[Christiansmommy]

Sweet Robin, who by the way, has the best name on earth

I think more people than would let on, have been thru very similar situations to what you are having to go through...and they were doing it alone. You have such an outlet of people here that I REALLY FEEL legitimately care and love you, really!!! My hear aches for you. My prayers go out to you.

Why in the world people have the power and ability to hurt other people is beyond me...it makes me angry to know that you are hurting because someone made some pretty bad choices and you're being affected by them. Well, you are so much better than that, such an important lady!! Look into those beautiful green eyes that you have and know that the face looking back at you is LOVED and prayed for by many many people. I know you might think, yeah right, you are not in my situation, but you will get thru this. One day, you are going to look BACK at this....YOU WILL LOOK BACK AT THIS!

Life can get real dark and thoughts that overwhelm us can haunt us when we want most to not think about them, I know...that's when you can call or email one of us. You have to at times like those....I know in my past, and hard trying times in my life, that I have gone thru...if it were not for my family and friends to talk to, to cry to, I wouldn't have made it thru those times. I think that is why God gave us shoulders ....really....when you can't stand on your own, it's time for you to lean on someone else and rest that weary head on someones shoulders...please know that your life is WAY too precious!!!! You can get through this,I know you can. (((HUGS))) girl.

Here is my shoulder if you need it....

Love,
Robyn

[Daisy and Delilah]

Robin,

Staci's post is right on. It says it all so well. I'm so glad you're putting it on the fridge. Read it over and over.

You're acting as if you're not worth it because of other toxic people in your life. This is where you're wrong.......you are so worth it!!! I hope and pray you stay cheerful and are able to pull yourself out of this. YOU ARE THE BETTER PERSON HERE!!!! - BELIEVE IT!!! There is a better life out there for you. Leave the toxicity behind and stay with people that know what a wonderful lady you are. Break away, you deserve to have a better life!!

I've also been there, done that. I told you about it in PM several months ago. Please PM me if I can do anything. {{{{{GIANT HUGS}}}}}

Love, Terry

[luvofallhorses]

please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, Robin. ((((HUGS)))) we love you!

[dukedogsmom]

Sending some Florida sunshine your way.

[Pam]

I think that is why God gave us shoulders ....really....when you can't stand on your own, it's time for you to lean on someone else and rest that weary head on someones shoulders...please know that your life is WAY too precious!!!! You can get through this,I know you can. (((HUGS))) girl.

Here is my shoulder if you need it....

Love,
Robyn

Robin I really liked what Robyn said. Our pastor recently preached a sermon and it dealt with "wounded healers." A wounded healer is someone who has gone through a dark time or trial in their lives and has made their way to the other side. We are often put in these situations so that we may be of help to others and offer them encouragement at just the right time. I see many wounded healers right here in our own Pet Talk family. I would like to offer you my shoulder right along with Robyn's and everyone else's. We love you Robin and just know that you will come out of this stronger and someday might even be used to help someone else.

(((((((hugs)))))))

[shais_mom]

I chatted with Robin today - for about 15 minutes. She sounded ok. She laughed at my silliness (long story). She was on her way to an appt with her therapist.

[Pawsitive Thinking]

That's good to see. This thread has been playing on my mind all day and I wanted to check in before heading for bed.

Keep smiling Robin - it will come good

[RobiLee]

Let me tell you there has been nothing to smile about here. I absolutely just can't stand another minute. It has been phone games all day. I have been behaving terribly right along with the rest of my family. I've been up all night and worked myself up into a rage. By morning I was sitting in my son's driveway and my dad told him to call the sheriff on me. Really nice getting a phone from the sheriffs office. So since they wanted to play that way I decided to press charges against Brandon for when he dragged me into his house and hit me several months ago. Things have just gotten worse. Now he has informed me that he wants his furniture back, so I guess I will take it outside and let it sit in the rain. Therapy session didn't go well because at this point what else do I have to say. I have the worst headache ever and a nasty cough. Does anyone understand why I absolutely can't stand my life and wish I were dead? I mean what is the point. I'm trying to hang in there but it hurts when your son and husband think you are just a piece of sh*t. Oh wait that isn't what they said. They said I was a "pyscho b*tch". Then when I find out that it is my FATHER who told Brandon to call the sheriff boy talk about being hurt. When Brandon hit me I should have presses charges right then but I didn't because daddy dearest didn't want the family to be embarrassed.

Yep, my motto is....Die Bitch Die!

[Pawsitive Thinking]

Yep, my motto is....Die Bitch Die!

Sweetheart, I don't know what to say to make things better for you. I do understand why you feel like you do but without stating the bleedin' obvious, death is permanent - you can't change your mind or watch the reactions of your non-loved ones.

Please, please call one of the PTers who have offered their shoulders right now!

[micki76]

Years ago, my ex-husband did the same thing to me. It took a long time and quite a bit of therapy for me to understand that the only way he could feel better was to make me feel worse. I remember finally understanding that I couldn't do day to day coping - sometimes I had to do minute to minute. I repeated it over and over, "I'm OK right now and I'm working on being OK for the next minute."

Exactly! I hope I never let anyone have that much power over my happiness again. Having said that, it was a dark place and hard to pull myself out of it. One day I woke up and it was like something smacked me in the head and I thought, "No more." That very day I started telling myself that I was a good person and that I could do anything I set my mind to. Positive reinforcement works. Tell yourself you're the best you that you can be, even if you don't believe it. You will.

[Lobodeb]

Robin, I'm so sorry to hear that you're not feeling well. I know I don't come around much anymore but I think about PT and my favorite PTers (one of them is you!) all the time.

I know we don't know each other very well and I'm not familiar with your situation to give you many words of encouragement, but I do hope you find the right medications to give you the boost you need to get back on the road to recovery. God doesn't give you what you can't handle. And if He brought you to it, He'll bring you through it. That which does not kill us only makes us stronger.

Keep your chin up, girl!

XOXOX