i need to get this out

[Queen of Poop]

I need to share this with someone. I don't know what to do now. My husband beat me up here in California on vacation. I am bruised and battered. I cannot move well my back is very sore from where he threw me into a piece of furniture. I wanted to fly home today but that didn't work out and if not be able to sit that long. I just want to be somewhere else. Pause to cry.

[Emeraldgreen]

The way you are being treated is NOT acceptable. I'm so sorry that you are going through this. I was going to ask if this is the first time or an ongoing thing and then I realized that either answer should have the same response, you need to protect yourself. I pray that you are able to get some help so you can either get your husband into anger management counselling or some help to get you out of that enviroment.
I know you said you are on vacation. Perhaps this is the best time to get back home while he isn't there so you can pack up and leave. Do you have somewhere safe to go where you live? I'm sure you don't have alot of time to use the computer with him around right now and if you'd like help looking online for safe houses etc.. in the area you live in, please let me know. Maybe there is a place that accepts animals too.

[Grace]

The way you are being treated is NOT acceptable. I'm so sorry that you are going through this. I was going to ask if this is the first time or an ongoing thing and then I realized that either answer should have the same response, you need to protect yourself. I pray that you are able to get some help so you can either get your husband into anger management counselling or some help to get you out of that enviroment.
I know you said you are on vacation. Perhaps this is the best time to get back home while he isn't there so you can pack up and leave. Do you have somewhere safe to go where you live? I'm sure you don't have alot of time to use the computer with him around right now and if you'd like help looking online for safe houses etc.. in the area you live in, please let me know. Maybe there is a place that accepts animals too.

I agree with Emeraldgreen. Also, have you reported this to the police? Is there anyone at home, in Calgary, who can help once you get back there?

[Emeraldgreen]

Here are some links of some places that you could possibly get into if you decided to go that route. Also, if you weren't ready, they could put you in touch with counselors. Please get help, it's out there for you. I'm praying for your safety.

Women Net- a page full of links re: shelters in Alberta

YWCA Calgary


Calgary Women's Emergency Shelter

[Catty1]

ETA: I strongly suggest you press charges while he is in the USA. That will buy you some time to get out and home.

If he has been hassling you at where you live, have charges been pressed in Canada? If you have filed a restraining order, and he is breaking it, that can result in stronger penalties.

HE NEEDS TO BE STOPPED AND PUNISHED. CALL THE COPS, HON. NOW


GAYLE - OMG, after all he did before he left...hon, did you get back together with him?

Dial 0 for the operator and tell her to connect you with the nearest help. If they have 911, do that too! Let them get help to you!

What part of CA are you in? There are PTrs there.

I'll PM them now!

[Freedom]

Report it and press charges here. Then go home and move to a safe house.
Is there anyone with you to help?
Is there anyone at home who will help?

You NEED to do this.

[ramanth]

Go to the nearest police station and tell them. Or go down to the front desk of the hotel, tell them, and have them call the police. Get his ass arrested.

*HUGS* No woman should have to deal with that. Ever.

[moosmom]

NO ONE has the right to put their hands on you. Get yourself to the police station and have him arrested. They will see for themselves what he did to you. Then, get yourself to a shelter. One that may be pet friendly. Please, keep us posted. We worry about you.

[Catty1]

Gayle - you know I live near you, when you get back to Canada. And a good friend of mine lives downtown, and knows all the resources as well.

HUGS - and I hope you have contacted the front desk, the police.

Please post when you can.

[Karen]

I have nothing to add to what was said above, but wanted you to know you will be in our prayers, both to get away from that situation, and to get help for physical and emotional healing.

[shais_mom]

I hope you can get the help you need.
stay safe.

[Taz_Zoee]

I am so sorry this happened (or is happening) to you. I believe you are in Southern California, while I am in Northern (Bay Area).
My only suggestion to you is to get the heck out and go to the police, or just call 911. Please don't wait for it to happen again. Something needs to be done NOW so he can't hurt you anymore.
The police may be able to find somewhere for you to stay until you can get back home, or they will remove him from your room. Once you are home Emeraldgreen's resources and Catty1's friend can help you from there.
Please do something, or this will not stop. We are all here for you.

[karlyb]

Abusers seldom stop this behavior on their own. Please go to a safe shelter or get him out of the house. I know it is hard to go to a shelter and ask for help, but your life is on the line. Don't let him hurt you again. I am concerned for you.

[Alysser]

I am so sorry this happened to you. PLEASE listen to everyone and get yourself out of there. You don't deserve this. GET OUT while you still can. Good luck!

[Daisy and Delilah]

OMG!! You have to call the police!! I wasn't aware that you two had gotten back together. If he's arrested in California, you can possibly get home and have enough peace and time to make a permanent move away from him. Please call the authorities before he does it again. You may not be so lucky the next time. What a jerk he is!!!!