Get Well Wishes for Robin (RobiLee)

[RobiLee]

Phred,

I'm sorry that I haven't called you back. I'm waiting here wondering if the police are going to come and get me. I've really messed things up. I deserve to die.

[dukedogsmom]

Robin,
Hateful people are the ones that make us feel worthless. Don't give them the power. I know that's easy for me to say right now but I have been there. You're too good a person to let that happen. I'm so busy at work right now but I'll try to keep up with this thread. Call Anna if you can.

[Catty1]

Robin - you don't deserve to die. But you have every right to get angry and fight back!

I have been in many places in life where I didn't want to DIE - I just didn't want to live life like I was any more. Does that make sense?

And I didn't live that horrid life - I changed, and it changed. Keep working, keep going to group. Yes, it's unfair you have to do all this work. BUT IT IS SO WORTH IT.

Stay alive. The pain will go away. Real healing takes more than a bandaid - it takes time.

Give yourself the gift of time. One second, one minute, one hour, one day at a time...whatever you can do.

And you CAN.

You are enough. You are enough. You are good enough just the way you are.

[Catty1]

Robin. I have always found some comfort in the following. I hope you do too.

One point - accepting something has nothing to do with liking it. ok? Read on.

It's from an AA book - but just take what applies and leave the rest.

"And acceptance is the answer to all my problems today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing or situation-some fact of my life-unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing or situation exactly the way it supposed to be at this moment. Nothing, absolutely nothing, happens in God´s world by mistake. Until I could accept my alcoholism, I could not stay sober; unless I accept life completely on life´s terms, I cannot be happy. I need to concentrate not so much on what needs to be changed in the world as on what needs to be changed in me and in my attitudes.

"Shakespeare said, ´All the world´s a stage and all the men and women merely players.´ He forgot to mention that I was the chief critic. I was always able to see the flaw in every person, every situation. And I was always glad to point it out, because I knew you wanted perfection just as I did. AA and acceptance have taught me that there´s a bit of good in the worst of us and a bit of bad in the best of us; that we are all children of God and we each have a right to be here. When I complain about me or about you, I´m complaining about God´s handiwork. I am saying that I know better than God."

{{{{hugs}}}}

[gini]

Pet Talk prayers - believe in them! This is the best that we can offer Robin right now - prayers - lots of them.


Dear God, hear our prayers for Robin!!

[Cinder & Smoke]

Phred,

I'm sorry that I haven't called you back.
I'm waiting here wondering if the police are going to come and get me.
I've really messed things up.
I deserve ...

I finally got through again to Robin ... about 11:45 pm ...
She's pretty far down in the dumps, but seemed to come around a bit as we talked.

"Norma" is there with her and will stay till about 1:00 pm on Sunday.
I had a nice chat with Norma >>>
Norma sounds very nice and is concerned about Robin ...
we traded phone numbers with the promise to keep everyone informed.

Back with Robin ... she *perks up* for a moment or two, then starts voicing
depressed thoughts ... gotta keep her focused on Happie Thoughts!

I tried to *sell her* on getting a room-mate for company and to help pay expenses ...
this time she said she'd "think about it" ... can I call that progress?

Hopefully she'll get some restful sleep and wake up with a brighter disposition.

{{{Hugs}}} to Robin!

/s/ Phred

[gini]

I am so relieved that someone is with Robin - Phred there are no words that say thank you properly.

We are discussing a valuable person's life - and we have no control - only our prayers that she can understand how valuable she is....................

[Catty1]

Prayers for Robin that she will get through this rough patch and begin to see a bit of a bigger, brighter picture.

Phred, thank you for the update.

[slick]

Phred, thank you for that information. The fact alone that she is posting is a good sign in my opinion and I'm so glad that she is not alone right now.

Robin, I never told you about this on the phone, but I truly know how you feel. Without going into details here, I know what it's like to want to die. I've been there. I wanted the hurt to end so desperately that my life meant nothing to me. For me that was rock bottom. When I woke the next morning I started making phone calls and after a year of therapy, I finally realized that it wasn't my fault and I learned that I am worth living and loving. That was 18 years ago now and I still have boughts of negativity now and then. It's a long road Robin but well worth it. I pray that you take the same path as me and leave behind the road you currently follow. Help is out there. All you need to do is ask. Life can be so much better than it is now!!!! You have to trust me on this one.

We love you Robin. Our world just wouldn't be the same without you in it. Please stay.

[shais_mom]

I think you should live to SPITE those that bring you down.
HE changed
YOU didn't. YOU did CHANGE b/c of HIM.

if you do succeed in hurting yourself (GOD FORBID)
you are giving him exactly what he wants.
he will play the 'victim' and the 'martyr' for awhile.
everyone will come up to him and say oh A, poor you.
he'll nod - play the grieving ex. go home with the girlfriend.
THEY will get what they want.. they will move into your home and take your dogs. OR she won't want them and they will end up at the pound wondering why their mom left them.
while your TRUE friends and family including Katie and Tori will be heartbroken. Look into their eyes - how can you possibly not want to live?

so LIVE
to SPITE them. Why give him the satisfaction of an easy life?

LIVE ROBIN....
choose to LIVE.

[wolf_Q]

I don't know what to say that will help you, Robin...just know I'm keeping you in my thoughts. {{HUGS}}

[cyber-sibes]

Robin, sometimes life sucks for a while & there isn't much you can do about it, because you can't change other people. Your ex's behavior is crazy-making, believe me, I've been where you are. I do understand how you feel. I don't really know how I made it, except that I chose to hang on one more day, in hopes that things would change. I did that every morning for years. And life has changed, for the better. I pray you can hang on just one more day, enough days in a row until life gets better. It will. Till then, let us love you until you can love yourself.

Sending you (((hugs))) & vibes for inner healing.


Oh yeah, Jack says he wants to meet you , too.

[RobiLee]

I think you should live to SPITE those that bring you down.
HE changed
YOU didn't. YOU did CHANGE b/c of HIM.

if you do succeed in hurting yourself (GOD FORBID)
you are giving him exactly what he wants.
he will play the 'victim' and the 'martyr' for awhile.
everyone will come up to him and say oh A, poor you.
he'll nod - play the grieving ex. go home with the girlfriend.
THEY will get what they want.. they will move into your home and take your dogs. OR she won't want them and they will end up at the pound wondering why their mom left them.
while your TRUE friends and family including Katie and Tori will be heartbroken. Look into their eyes - how can you possibly not want to live?

so LIVE
to SPITE them. Why give him the satisfaction of an easy life?

LIVE ROBIN....
choose to LIVE.

Staci,

This post has really touched me. I am printing it out and putting it on my fridge. Thanks for the daily reminder. Love ya!

[shais_mom]

Staci,

This post has really touched me. I am printing it out and putting it on my fridge. Thanks for the daily reminder. Love ya!

MAJOR LES now.
love ya too!