Do any of you have prayer requests??

**Catty1** · 02-01-2008, 08:13 PM

Robin - if you can, treat yourself to some new snazzy glasses! HUGS to you again.

When you were in hosp, did they make arrangements for counselling or follow-up care?

(Sounds like you finally got ANGRY...and there is a common thought about depression being anger turned inside...

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**krazyaboutkatz** · 02-02-2008, 02:01 AM

Robin, you'll remain in my thoughts and prayers. Things will get better. Please take care. (((HUGS)))

**catfamily** · 02-02-2008, 06:17 AM

Robin-I am terribly sorry your going through this.keep in mind that you DO need a restraining order and still need to watch yourself even after.you should try to keep yourself around at least 1 other person for at least a year.i know it sounds extreem...but these kind of men are very dangerous.I too was in a marriage a long time back with a very scary man.
i also have been through the mill with other very scary men.
no more though (thank God) but i have done my share on reading about these type guys and feel i know what to look for when just talking with a male for the first time.
by the way...most men are very very nice...it's those few that you need to look out for.
And of course it goes the other way around too with scary woman.(not to exclude the other sex)
(i don't want to get in trouble here..lol)
Anyway...take the advice on never being alone as much as possible...please...it's very important.

**gini** · 02-02-2008, 11:49 AM

Robin, the time has come! YOU COME FIRST!!!!

Haven't you come to the point where you just have had enough of his nonsense and you won't allow him to do anything more to hurt you?

I am so sorry that you are going through this - you sure do not deserve it, you are such a lovely woman.

All of us are here for you - all of us care - and we want to hear from you regularly to know that you are alright.

**anna_66** · 02-03-2008, 07:42 PM

Originally Posted by gini

Robin, the time has come! YOU COME FIRST!!!!

Haven't you come to the point where you just have had enough of his nonsense and you won't allow him to do anything more to hurt you?

Unfortunatley that's a big fat NO Gini. She talked to him tonight and ended up back in the hospital again, this time it will be for a while I'm sure

I don't know what to do any more but pray.

**catfamily** · 02-03-2008, 09:00 PM

Robin's in the hospital?
Is she going to be ok?
OMG!!I feel so horrible...i get a sick feeling inside whenever i hear this kind of stuff happening.That poor poor girl.
Anything we can do?
besides pray?Of course prayers but my God!!!!

**anna_66** · 02-04-2008, 07:10 AM

Originally Posted by catfamily

Robin's in the hospital because of her husband beating on her???

I'll let her explain what happened, but I can tell you he never touched her. He wasn't a physical abuser.

Catt1, I'll give it to her. Thanks.

I'll let her know your all keeping her in your thoughts.

**Jadapit** · 02-03-2008, 10:10 PM

Originally Posted by anna_66

Unfortunatley that's a big fat NO Gini. She talked to him tonight and ended up back in the hospital again, this time it will be for a while I'm sure

I don't know what to do any more but pray.

I'm so sorry!! It sounds like Robin is going through a very, very tough time. When you talk to her again Anna, please tell her she is in my thoughts and prayers.

**krazyaboutkatz** · 02-04-2008, 12:16 AM

Originally Posted by anna_66

Unfortunatley that's a big fat NO Gini. She talked to him tonight and ended up back in the hospital again, this time it will be for a while I'm sure

I don't know what to do any more but pray.

I'm so sorry to hear this.

Robin will continue to remain in my thoughts and prayers.

**Catty1** · 02-04-2008, 12:33 AM

Anna - I am posting this here, and attaching it so you can send or fax it to Robin, if possible. She needs a long withdrawl period from this man/situation. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results each time. She's known him since she was 17...it's going to be really hard for her if she didn't have that living-on-her-own experience for a while.

I pray she learns to be comfortable in her own skin...and stays put until she is well. {{{{hugs}}}}
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6 GOOD Reasons For "No Contact"

1. Your ex is doing "no contact". You wouldn't be sweating those digits if they were calling you. When people love you, you love them. When people stay away from you, you should do the same. Hey, you don't want to be where you're not wanted, do you?

2. Begging and pleading doesn't work. If it did, you wouldn't be here. So try something different.

3. You're just asking for a panic attack. I don't know how many stories I've read on here of people who have given in and called or e-mailed and were completely slapped in the face or ignored by their ex. Then they're back at square one, feeling as bad as they did the day they got dumped. Or for those of you who get those ambiguous responses, you're given a tiny piece of string to hold onto while they continue to go out and have their fun - without you. It ain't worth it, honey.

4. What about you? Don't you deserve to be called and missed? Your ex wasn't the only one in the relationship, and you shouldn't be the only one calling. Guess what? He/she knows your number/e-mail address too. It's not fair to have one-sided communication. Invest that time and energy into yourself.

5. You won't be able to move on if you're still holding on to old ghosts. I say old ghosts because he/she isn't there anymore. They've moved on, some for better, a lot for worse. But the point is they've moved on. And you know what? If they really love you and they see that you're better than the rest out there, they'll be back. And if they don't, then you'll find someone who will think you're top dog. And you deserve that. Interesting stat - 90% of people in the US get married at least once. So it's against the odds that you'll be alone forever.

6. God loves you. He doesn't want to see you suffer. But God teaches those that he loves, so sometimes we have some hard lessons to learn. Take it in stride and gain everything that you can. He will be pleased and send you all that your heart needs and wants. Don't believe me? "Delight thyself also in the Lord; and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart."

Psalm 37:4.

So let go of the phones and cancel the e-mails. Go read a good book. Pray, take a walk, write in a diary, post on here. But leave your ex alone. He/she will thank you for it, and you'll be thanking yourself later.