Desperate Help Needed - Noah

[Catsnclay]

Kelly, I have to agree with Rachel.....


If you want to be treated as an adult, then act like one.

IMO - do not leave a note. You need to sit them down and explain to them that this is your time to leave. Thank them for all their help and love, but it now time for you to move on into your own place.

Done, simple and to the point. It doesn't matter if they like your decision or not, but at least you confronted them. Keep confronting them, they will learn that you ARE an adult, and if you act & treat them as one, then in turn they will learn to treat you as an equal. But if you run and leave a note, in their mind that is the childish thing to do and will continue to treat you as their child.

Like I said, this is MY opinion, and this is how I would handle this situation.....which BTW, I too have been in your shoes, so I do know what you are going through.

Stand your ground, and be polite about it. Good Luck!!!!!!

Bunny

[ramanth]

Lots of prayers for you Kelly.

Either way, whether you leave a note or tell them in person, they are likely to be upset, right?

Are you afraid that if you tell them in person, they'll stop you from leaving? Are they capable of that?

I hate confrontations as well but I'm just curious for the need of secrecy. I don't mean to be nosy.

*HUGS*

[NoahsMommy]

You've made some VERY good points. If I want them to view and treat me like an adult, I need to act like one. Just writing a note is not going to be adult-like, even if it'll get me out of an initial confrontation. That confrontation needs to happen, regardless of the result.

I'm going to sit down with them both this Friday after work. That way, if they make me leave right away, I'll still have a place to go to. I can go to my new apartment and take a kitty or two on my way...or go alone and get them on Saturday as planned.

I'm going to praying constantly until then that God provides the words. I CANNOT do this alone.

Love, Kelly

P.S. I'm meeting my brother at the storage place at 1:00 pm, then we'll get to the new apartment and Kristin at 3:00 p.m. to move some things in. Yay!!

[carole]

All the best Kelly, you can do it, it will be hard i know, but you will find the inner strength to say the right thing i'm sure,hoping it all goes better than you expect, take care and HUGS.

[ramanth]

Good luck Kelly!!!

[Alysser]

I just read the whole thread, and I am saddened that you had such a hard time at home. Hope all goes well for you!!! I will be waiting for updates.

[Karen]

My whole church has you in our prayers, Kelly! And our pastor has four cats, so I'm sure they're included.

[Rachel]

You've made some VERY good points. If I want them to view and treat me like an adult, I need to act like one. Just writing a note is not going to be adult-like, even if it'll get me out of an initial confrontation. That confrontation needs to happen, regardless of the result.

I'm going to sit down with them both this Friday after work. That way, if they make me leave right away, I'll still have a place to go to. I can go to my new apartment and take a kitty or two on my way...or go alone and get them on Saturday as planned.

I'm going to praying constantly until then that God provides the words. I CANNOT do this alone.

Love, Kelly

P.S. I'm meeting my brother at the storage place at 1:00 pm, then we'll get to the new apartment and Kristin at 3:00 p.m. to move some things in. Yay!!

Kelly, I will be praying for you too. I am very proud of your thoughtful consideration of how best to handle this. {{{hugs}}}

[NoahsMommy]

My Sweet Friends/Family,

Well, today did NOT go as planned, but it worked out for the best, actually. Kristin did not call me back so I knew what time to come and bring some of my things (ie: my bed from the storage unit my brother and I are sharing). She finally called me at 3:00 p.m., the time I asked if we could BE THERE at. Oh well...I guess she left her cell phone somewhere and didn't have access to it. She said she didn't realize it until she saw the time and knew I'd be coming in the afternoon. Oh well.

We're meeting Tuesday at 5:30 p.m. at the apartment so she can give me a key. Then it wont matter if she's there or not.

My brother was actually a good sport about everything. So that's nice. He was right, you all were right, I need to tell my parents. I wouldn't be proud of myself if I didn't. So, now I have a week of nerves on edge until I talk to them on Friday. I'm going to be praying HARD for God to help me with this, there is NO WAY I'd be able to do it alone. So your prayers (Thank you to your church, Karen! That's so kind/sweet of you!) are VERY MUCH APPRECIATED!!!

I'm thinking that if Friday doesn't go very well, I'll pick up my Micah from CiCi's house on the way to my new place. That is 2/1/08, so its OK for me to move in then. Then Micah and I will have a campout! YAY!

I'll keep you all updated. ALL the prayers you can offer will certainly help. I just need calm and clarity...and prayers they will recieve me.

Hugs, Kelly and kits

XOXOXOXOXOX

[Laura's Babies]

Good thoughts coming your way and prayers already said for you to find the right words and thing be peaceful for you.

[NoahsMommy]

Update:

This evening I met Kristin at the apartment - our apartment, YAY! - to pickup MY KEY!!! YAY!!! Its nearly official!!!!!

I got my address change request from the post office at lunch on Monday and got my new address from Kristin this evening. I'll fill this out and drop it off at my local post office tomorrow. I've already changed my address for my spousal support check, but haven't gotten a confirmation...I changed that one to CiCi's address. Maybe I'll just call them tomorrow and give them my new address so its done for good. "Note to self..."

I got a surprise when I got to the apartment. Her name is "Darling"! I guess Kristin's friend got a bunny wabbit and either couldn't keep it in her current living situation, or something like that. Either way, it looks like we may have a BUNNY!!! I'm sooooo excited as I miss Faith and Thomas sooo much! Darling is just a tiny thing, well, more "little" than tiny. She's VERY sweet and is learning to come to you when you call her - while she out romping. Normally she's in her Bunny Condo when Kristin isn't there. Luckily Noah and Basie where raised with bunnies, huh? (Darling's condo is kept in Kristin's room, btw.)

Here are 2 pictures of what Darling looks like:



Plans are: Kevin and I are going to try and move in my stuff from the storage one day this week (after work)...and then continue Saturday or Sunday. Now that I have my key, it shouldn't be a problem.

I'll keep you all updated.

Pls continue with your wonderful prayers that I have the right words, that God calms my mom and opens her heart and ears to what I have to say...and that it all gets overwith soon! My tummy has been hurting way too much over this!

Hugs, Kelly