I've lived with cats throughout most of my life and have found them to be a wonderful friend and companion. Each one is unique and differs in personality. I agree with Kass - look for a kitty that you fall in love with and falls in love with you.

Knowing if your kitty will be an affectionate lap kitty is not always a certainty. All of my kitties have been affectionate but not necessarily lap cats. When Eve (a rescue) was with her previous humans, she would not let them pick her up and was anything but affectionate. However, with us she is the ultimate cuddle buddy, always looking for hugs and snuggles and frequently found snuggled up in daddy's lap . She waits for me to go to bed at night and instantly curls up and leans into to me for cuddles. She also picked us to be her purrents - ran away from her previous owners and parked herself on our doorstep until we took her in and kept her.

The interesting part of this story is that her previous owners adopted Eve along with her baby. They still have her baby, Bella and Bella is completely bonded to her humans. Cats are a mystery and are often known to make their own choices. I believe the best situation is one in which your kitty picks you as Eve did with us. She is just the sweetest baby girl and we are so lucky to have her in our lives.

My best advice would be to take your time and visit local rescues and shelters. There are so many kitties looking for someone to love and you are certain to find one that steals your heart.

Good luck with your search and don't hesitate to ask questions or look for assistance, when confused. A kitty in your life will enrich your time; love the one that picks you and you will experience a wonderful thing