It just had to come to this didn't it.. **sigh**

[Catty1]

Rehome yourself...does this man not CARE about his own kids?

I think HE and Daisy should go and get her a 'temperament assessment'. That way he hears it right from the person themselves.

And since training involves training the owner as well - that sounds like the best idea. Particularly if the alternative is rehoming her - which will have to be made very clear to him.

You can mention it to him gently, that with the baby coming, some training might be a really good idea to help prepare Daisy.

Good luck...

[tikeyas_mom]

Well Shaun really loves Daisy.. And she loves him more then any other person.. He gives her alot special treatment, Compared to what Ebony and Tikeya get.. I think he favors her, because shes the youngest, and so affraid.. He babys her.. I dont think that helps her problem at all.. I know it will eventually come down to rehoming her.. He will never put her down tho. I know that for a fact.. I will contact a pitty rescue and tell them my situationg, and see what they say.. Thanks for all the replys..

I cannot believe you would put this dog in that situation EVER, not to mention the child.

I didnt put anyone in this situation.. I met my boyfriend and he came with the two dogs.. I love them like my own.. But Now that I have a baby, Its becoming more and more obvious that he is my first priority.

[Giselle]

I would also agree that it's very odd for a behaviorist to tell you straight off the bat what your dog is and isn't. I had an experience with one such behaviorist who told me through e-mail (without ever seeing my dog) that Ivy was, without a doubt, dog-aggressive. Yeah, okay, lady. That's why we can go to the dog park weekly and have never had a problem. My point is, not all behaviorists are created equal, so there just may be hope for Daisy's life itself.

Contact a reputable, experienced pittie rescue and see if they have the resources and REAL behaviorists who can deal with Daisy's issues.
http://pbrc.net/webapp/cgi-bin/orgs_...614177a42f1058

I wish you all the luck. =(

[lizbud]

Sounds like Daisy could become a fear biter. That doesn't mean she
would make an unprovoked attack on adult or child. My Smokey is a fearful
dog & hates for someone he doesn't know to come too near to him. He likes
to make the first move with strangers large or small. I've had him since he
was 8 wks old & think he was born that way. (bad genes)

Daisy should not be put in the situation where she has to flee from
curious toddlers.

[Freedom]

No one should be forcing her to "meet and greet" strangers if she is not ready, willing and able to do that.

And praising her when she is scared reinforces to her that there IS something to be afraid about.

BF is where you need to start, I think. You sense a problem, and based on what you have stated, with good reason. You want to do something about it, he doesn't. Obstacle #1.

How on earth can you get the dog to a behaviourist or training class with a little one in tow when being with the little one is what makes her anxious? And since she has bonded closest with BF, he really should be the one training her. That is what the classes are mostly about: training the OWNER to train and handle the dog. You can't train a dog on a one hour per week class.

Can you get him to take her to even a basic obediance class? That will develop the pack leader/ follower relationship more closely between those 2, while getting him some exposure to what is and is not proper. As she is the youngest, maybe that is a way to get him to take her?

Difficult situation, so sorry you have to figure this one out.

[Catty1]

Yup - BF has to become the 'alpha' dog, not the enabler! And that can be done with proper training.

Whatever pittie rescues you contact, see if they can reply to you via email. That way, you will have something to print out and show BF.