Wow, what a difficult situation! I haven't had much time for the forums (and rarely come down to General)so forgive me for only seeing this now!

I think Karen's idea is a good one. Get the parents out while you move - way easier! And if things are that heated, Johanna's suggestion of a cop wouldn't be bad either. At least it would keep it civil while they are there.

I'd also leave a letter explaining everything...exactly as how you see it. A letter is often better, since you have time to word it correctly, instead of in the heat of a face to face discussion.

We went through something a tad similar.....Rob's mother. She accused him of everything and anything. She told him to pick sides (parents are divorced) and said Rob was doing things behind her back (which he wasn't). As you can imagine, Christmas was wonderful.

Rob decided 4 years into our relationship that it wasn't worth maintaining a relationship with his mother because of all the threats and bitterness. We haven't had any contact with her in 8 years and it is so much better. Sometimes it's better to choose who you have in your life, rather than just accepting a negative relationship that hurts your own health/well being.

I wish you the best Kelly - for your health and a new beginning.