Johanna brings up an interesting point with "your parents having control over your finances" ...

Do your parents hold a Power of Attorney that names them as your overseer or
gives them financial control over your accounts?

Do you voluntarily put your paychecks, alimony, and other income into a
"joint account" that your Mother has access to?

I'd take steps to nullify any of these agreements if they exist.

/s/ Phred