Desperate Help Needed - Noah

[Emeraldgreen]

Hi Kelly, only 18 more sleeps until the big day! It will be an exhausting day but I'm sure but it will all be worth it. I like Karen's idea about having your brother keep your parents occupied. But if you need him to help move the heavy stuff, maybe your grandma could get involved with occupying them by inviting your parents over for lunch that day or something and then you and your brother could quickly move out your stuff.
If you pre-write a letter to your parents over the next few weeks and put in it all that you want to say, you can leave it at their house so they have some sort of explanation when they get home. And then you could get in touch with them by phone later that night and talk about it some more. It might give them a chance to absorb it a bit at a time.
If you're not 100% sure that your brother will not able to keep the move a secret, maybe you could ask him to do 'something' (lunch, the movies or some kind of favor) with you on February 2nd to make sure that he reserves that day for you and then when he comes over, you can let him know what you really have planned.
I'm sure you'll fine tune all your ideas over the next few weeks as 'the first day of the rest of your life' draws nearer! Hang in there and try to stay postivie.

[Catty1]

Kelly - would your grandma find 'something for your parents to do' on moving day? Something to get them out of the house?

I hope your brother can handle himself if they find out he helped! OH WAIT - he lives far away!

HUGS to you girl!

[shais_mom]

Kelly - would your grandma find 'something for your parents to do' on moving day? Something to get them out of the house?

Actually if I remember correctly, the grandma that she is referring to is her PATERNAL grandma so I doubt if her mom has much to do with her. Honestly, I'm surprised she allows Kelly the freedom to see her! The "parent's" that Kelly refers to is actually her mom and STEP DAD - they have been married for about 8 years.

I hope your brother can handle himself if they find out he helped! OH WAIT - he lives far away!

HUGS to you girl!

Actually - I don't think he does. But I think he could handle himself pretty well. I've not met him but I have a hunch!

[krazyaboutkatz]

Kelly, I'm glad to hear that Kirstin is helping you with your credit and deposit. I hope that everything goes smoothly with your move. You've already been given a lot of great advice so there's nothing more that I can add. I know that once you're in your own place with your furkids that your health will get much better and you'll feel so much more relaxed. Please take care and continue to keep us updated.

[Pawsitive Thinking]

Not long now Kelly!!!

Next time Mommy Dearest starts you just repeat to yourself "PT loves me" over and over again. She may not appreciate you, but we do!

[Cataholic]

I didn't go back and re-read what you said about your parents having control over your finances...but, how are you addressing that issue? Will they hold or keep your money from you once they realize you are moving out? Is it more that you are expected to turn it over to them, rather than them having control over it? I wasn't clear on that, but, you need your money, and if they have it...well....

Taking everything you say as true, I would probably arrange for a police officer at the time of the move. While it might be your mom/stepdad, the way you have described some of their actions is a little off, and you want to make sure this happens exactly as planned.

[Cinder & Smoke]

Johanna brings up an interesting point with "your parents having control over your finances" ...

Do your parents hold a Power of Attorney that names them as your overseer or
gives them financial control over your accounts?

Do you voluntarily put your paychecks, alimony, and other income into a
"joint account" that your Mother has access to?

I'd take steps to nullify any of these agreements if they exist.

/s/ Phred