Update!

[Kirsten]

I just emailed Julie

Good idea!!! Hope she can help....

Good luck with Best Friends!

Kirsten

[Catty1]

I also went through some of Julie's posts and copied/pasted some note and sent them to Jenn.

Of interest: Ally joined the family when she was 4 weeks old. She would 'squeak-talk' and other stuff.

The 'issues' started when they brought Connor home. In one case, Ally glared hatefully at Connor - then turned around and bit Julie!

Connor would fight back if Ally picked on him - Ally once got an abcess that needed AB's.

There is ONE person Ally never bit - WARREN.

Hopefully this will give BF something to work with - I don't think they are saying no, they just need more info to ensure there is a therapy they can use with Ally.

A minor thought - I wonder if it was worse for Ally because a) she 'lost' her mommy, being adopted at 4 weeks, and b) she could not communicate with Connor as he is deaf. Psychotically frustrated because 'no one understands'?

PT Prayers for all involved.

[emily_the_spoiled]

I think that adding to the mix is that they both wanted to be "top cat" in the household. Connor is trying the same thing here but I have dealt with it differently than Julie did.

[Catty1]

Just curious, ETS - what is the difference in how you are treating Connor regarding this? I have a hunch, but want to hear your take first.

[emily_the_spoiled]

I tried to integrate him into the house but he kept picking on one of the other cats (Charlie). I could not let that continue, so I put Connor in a spare room by himself for most of the day. Then when I get home from work I put Charlie in another room by himself and let Connor out for a couple of hours while I am there to supervise things. When I go to bed, Connor goes back into the spare room and Charlie comes out.

The spare room is a decent size and he has a window over looking the bird feeder in my front yard. He has a double bed to sleep on and toys to entertain himself.

I didn't know what else to do with him beyond re-homing him. (I even had Nancy do a reading on him)

[Catty1]

Okay, I see - I think Ally has/had a separate room at Jenn's - maybe just one other cat who didn't bother Ally and vice versa.

Julie - seems to me their apartment didn't have any spare room. I might be recalled wrong.

I was thinking along the lines of someone taking charge - which you did, in a way - and showing the Alpha kitty who really is the alpha...kind of like one does with dogs, I think.

Wonder how to get that through Ally's skull? Tough love or just plain love?

[Karen]

Maybe Ally just needs to be an only cat. Even in a room all by herself, she can obviously still smell other cats in the household, and her behavior problems at Julie's seemed to begin when Connor was brought home.

Some cats are just not happy unless they are "only children." I wonder if there's someone - maybe a newly-widowed or otherise person who has no animals, but would like another presence in the house - that Jennie could find ... some older folks are reluctant to get a new animal because they worry what would happen if the animal outlives them, but Ally is an adult kitty, and not likely to live another 15 years or anything, realistically speaking, so that needn't be a concern.