Unfortunately, no matter what a parent does or says, it has a 50/50 chance of sinking in. Some kids just have to have extreme repercussions before they "get it".

My daughter still hasn't---and she just turned 43. She drinks daily, chooses not to keep a job long, can't keep the bills paid and if she wants something, she buys it. Her house is always a mess because she's so disorganized. Not a good role model for her 12 year old daughter.

She's smart enough to know what she should do, but emotionally still a rebellious teen. All my talks and hints and trying to be a good example are a waste of time and energy.

All we can do is to provide them with the information and tools. Then step back and hold our breath.