I hope my plans happen....

[Edwina's Secretary]

Sallyanne...my husband too just went through a horrible time jobwise -- he had been with the company for 33 years. But change is inevitable and it wasn't right for him.

He left the company. Shortly thereafter he went to the doctor for an ear infection. The doctor was amazed...his blood pressure was down so much!

He has found a new opportunity without the relentless pounding he endured. And he is the better for it.

I don't know if you read my posting in another thread of yours. Is being self-employed an option for you? Could you work out something with your current employer for leads and recommendations? I did that a few years ago and, though it has taken some time, it is working. PM me if you would like to discuss it some more.

My thoughts are with you....

[mruffruff]

A bad job can really wreck your life. I'm glad you have decided to get out.

I have a job that isn't really so bad. But after 18 years I managed to cut my hours to 24 a week. The difference in my attitude is amazing. I can live on peanut butter sandwiches if it makes me feel this good.

If you could work only part time, the issues with your mother may change.

I wish you lots of luck and intestinal fortitude. Just don't wait too long to get started.

[Pam]

Well Sallyanne you have made yourself accountable to the whole PT world. If March rolls around and you are still in that paper bag we will rattle it!! In all seriousness I hear so well what you are saying. My own mom is in assisted living and it is a Godsend. I know you will do your homework in researching the best facility and your mom will do just fine.

I agree with Lizbud about your job situation. It is their problem not yours. I once gave my employer eight weeks' notice. He waited until two weeks before my departure date to hire someone. He never even started the search until a week before that. I felt that the training I gave the new girl was far from sufficient but I never lost any sleep over it.

Please do take care of yourself and the campers and keep checking in to let us know when you take the first step to your new life.

(((hugs)))

[ChrisH]

Sallyanne, what you are doing has my vote too. Life's way to short to be miserable every day.
Prayers, positive thoughts and love on the way.

[emily_the_spoiled]

Sallyanne,

I am glad that you have reached some decisions about what you are going to do. Life is too short to be miserable, whether it is a job or a relationship. I have been there and done that and it was horrible. The best thing I did was leave.

I know that you are making the right decision for your mother.

P.S. Vermont state has some very good programs for people in the position of Sallyanne's mother, so there should be help available to her that isn't found in other states.

[sasvermont]

Well, today I let the partners know that I was leaving the firm. Their reaction was priceless and yet they were not sure if I was being serious or just pushing their buttons. Rather than burn my bridges, I told them I had way, way too much stress in my life and I needed to make the change effective March 1. I think they were thrilled that I didn't just walk out.

The staff is happy for me, as they know how long I have been taking a beating. I don't think they (the staffer) will leave the firm any time soon, as my leaving is probably going to scare them (the owners) in to good behavior. They were so chatty with me this afternoon and falling all over themselves. I think they are afraid I will bring a suit against them. I mean, I had guys throwing phone books at me, tripping me, slamming doors in my face, cursing at me....and each other, nasty memos...just childish awful things. The rest of the staff has their share of exposure but my treatment was rough because I have the power to call them on their behavior although it took quite a bit for me to so it. I would tell them that they needed help, mentally and they would agree.... But guess what, that didn't help. My guess is that they will come up with some complicated departure contract for me to sign, saying I won't sue them. Whatever. I just want out.

My case worker for my mom, called today. I was offered a place for her, but I know the place and I wouldn't put my cats there, let alone my mom. So we are going to hold out for a couple of places I know about. It will take about 30 days to get through the process, so I suspect my mom's move will happen after the 1st of the year.

So things are not all better, but I do feel as though I have this huge monkey off my back. Just a couple of more monkeys to deal with.... Now I need to find a new place to hang my hat. I've done it before. I am going to downscale my life style a bit. Not that I was making a fortune, but I will miss the money. Oh well. I like peanut butter.

Thanks for listening and caring.

(((((((((((((((((Pet Talkers))))))))))))))

Love,
Sas and her campers

[Catty1]

Oh well. I like peanut butter.

PM me with your addy, and I will send your favorite jam and some honey!

You're getting there!

[Rachel]

I think they are afraid I will bring a suit against them. I mean, I had guys throwing phone books at me, tripping me, slamming doors in my face, cursing at me....and each other, nasty memos...just childish awful things. The rest of the staff has their share of exposure but my treatment was rough because I have the power to call them on their behavior although it took quite a bit for me to so it. I would tell them that they needed help, mentally and they would agree.... But guess what, that didn't help. My guess is that they will come up with some complicated departure contract for me to sign, saying I won't sue them. Whatever. I just want out.

As for suing them, these folks reallly need to wonder if that just might happen. The less you say, the better as their own guilty conscience will have their minds racing. And as ES says, don't sign anything unless it is well worth it.