Kay, I really do feel for you and your family. This is not an easy situation for anyone. I don't know about your county, but the Office of Aging (or I think it may be called Council on Aging down there) do offer some free and low cost services. It isn't much, but take advantage of what is there (in Indian River County they offer Day Care, if you transport the patient there, or they offer respite care for a couple of hours a week; for a fee they also offer housekeeping services if that would help your grandmother-I just mention these as some of the things you could ask about). I do understand how hard it is, and I will keep your family in my thoughts and prayers.