What he did had nothing to do with anything anyone else did or didn't do. It had nothing to do with you or his parents not loving him enough or his love for anyone. It was something within him that no one could touch or reach, some misery that was within him that drove him to do that. No one failed him in any way..... He was ill.

My step Dad that I grew up loving did the same thing and it makes you feel so guilty no matter what you did to help or how much, how hard you loved them. I finally came to realize what he did had nothing to do with any of his family or friends. We knew he wanted to do that and did everything we could to keep it from happening, including getting help for him but NOTHING worked.

Nothing helps with the loss everyone is feeling right now, no amount of words, no amount of caring or support. That takes time but you all will get through it with God's help.

My sympathies to you and the ones who loved him. May he now have the peace he didn't have here on earth and I fully believe he IS in Heaven and is at peace now. It was his illness that caused him to do this and God has forgiven him.