I don't know if this will help or not,

http://www.parrothouse.com/sf4.html

as for living with a female first off he would never be allowed that in rescue they would breed. Why would I add to the problem?
I've read too's should be paired if they don't like too much human contact but bird owners should test out there too's first to see how they react to another bird. There are ways to not let them have babies but I did not know your too was this agressive so it's out of the question. I'd try out a behaviorist like said for at least a few months and see how it goes, anyway hope everything turns out right for the bird.