Question on tipping

[kitten645]

I've been told that single women and women in general are poor tippers so I tend to over compensate, However, as a single woman that eats alone on Oocasion I do notice a lesser service. Put in the table by the kitchen. Completely ignored etc etc.

[anna_66]

What is good service? For instance, Audrey said maybe it would get them to smile more and be more friendly. Maybe someone else doesn't really want someone who is going to be smiley and talky, but just wants them to take their order, keep their table clean, glasses filled, and respond quickly to a wave (I came in for dinner not to make a new friend-yes I really am that grumpy ).

I'm glad you've started this thread.
It gets us away from the bitter feelings in the other thread

I'd love it if tips were just included and we could be paid an hourly wage. No more guessing what your going to get.

If that's being grumpy, I'm grumpy too

Including tip into wages:
If the tip was included and my server isn't working for a tip then they won't care how long my glass is empty because they know they've already gotten my money.

I so don't agree with that Angie. Of course there are servers who are like that and are only there to bring home the money, but then there are others who really care about taking care of their guests...people like me


As for the single woman and women in general,
I get just as bad tips from men as I do from women. A lot of times I get better tips from women

[Pam]

Including tip into wages:
If the tip was included and my server isn't working for a tip then they won't care how long my glass is empty because they know they've already gotten my money.

I'm in favor of that. Just do away with tips and pay the servers a better hourly wage. As in every occupation there are people who are good workers and people who do only what is necessary to barely get by. I have seen that in every place I have worked. Of course if you are a slacker it will be reflected in your review as the boss undoubtedly notices that as well.

With that thought in mind, it would be nice to do away with tips yet have the ability to *rate your server.* It could be a little comment sheet left on the table when your bill is presented. That way word would get back to the managers as to who is doing a good job and that would be reflected at raise/review time since the boss is not right there receiving the service but would then be aware of who is going above and beyond.

[anna_66]

Funny you bring up the comment sheet Pam.

Remember when almost all places had comment cards to fill out on the table?

My mom and dad just got back from vacation and stopped at a place that still had them. Mom said she started filling it out even before they were done with their meal.
She said she could tell right away with the way the server was that they were going to get good service

[Miss Z]

I think in britain that's how they do things though. We had a big group in once and they were very cheap tippers. I think they said it's because where they're from, they don't tip.

Precisely. As I said in the other thread, tipping is very culturally based - some places over here even require you NOT to tip because it is insulting!

I don't mind tipping as long as it's a gesture for excellent efforts and not a necessity just because the waiter/ess did their job.

It has been interesting, though, to note how it is more common practice to tip across the pond. I'll have to keep that in mind for the future!

[Randi]

I really could do without the tipping system. I do tip for good service where that is the policy, but I would much prefer that people were just paid a living wage and that was the end of it.

I agree with this.

[Ginger's Mom]

With that thought in mind, it would be nice to do away with tips yet have the ability to *rate your server.* It could be a little comment sheet left on the table when your bill is presented. That way word would get back to the managers as to who is doing a good job and that would be reflected at raise/review time since the boss is not right there receiving the service but would then be aware of who is going above and beyond.

It's funny you should mention this Pam. I have noticed that it is becoming more common place for chain restaurants (Applebee's, Hard Rock) to have something printed on your receipt indicating that you can go to their website, put in your check number and leave a comment about your dining experience. I very rarely do it, but if the experience is particularly good or poor I would make a point of doing so. And of course this is the answer to giving feedback so the managers know which servers should be given additional benefits after we have done away with tipping (the last line was said tongue in cheek, of course ).

[Rachel]

I'm in favor of that. Just do away with tips and pay the servers a better hourly wage. As in every occupation there are people who are good workers and people who do only what is necessary to barely get by. I have seen that in every place I have worked. Of course if you are a slacker it will be reflected in your review as the boss undoubtedly notices that as well.

With that thought in mind, it would be nice to do away with tips yet have the ability to *rate your server.* It could be a little comment sheet left on the table when your bill is presented. That way word would get back to the managers as to who is doing a good job and that would be reflected at raise/review time since the boss is not right there receiving the service but would then be aware of who is going above and beyond.

This reflects how I feel as well. Somehow the whole concept of tipping makes me think that these particular businesses expect us to not only *pay* their employees but motivate them too. Well, I didn't get to hire them and don't get to fire them, so please don't expect me to do the other part either. That said, I almost always tip 20% and even the worst service gets a 15% tip because I don't want people handling my food to have any reason to ....well, you know. The whole system makes me irritated to say the least.

[lizbud]

Well I would vote to upgade all restautant/service job to match minimum federal wage & then tip for good service as an extra bonus per customer.

I really don't eat out if I'm already watching my pennies anyway.

[cassiesmom]

They probably did that because the credit card compay gets a percentage of the tip when you add the tip to the card.

Thank you, I didn't know the credit card company could do that. At the place I used to go, I liked being able to include the tip in my check because I was never really sure how to properly give it to the stylist. At this new salon, the receptionist takes care of that. I just made a note on my appointment card to remember to have cash ready for the tip on the day I go.

My very first haircut after college - now this was 20 years ago and I'd been going to an inexpensive salon as a student. I was getting ready to start my first nursing position, so I went to my mom's salon for a haircut. It cost $25 which was exactly how much money I had with me. I couldn't give a tip! I just remember being so embarrassed and not knowing how to get out of there. The next time my mom went, she turned in my tip with hers.

[Freedom]

I much preferred when I was travelling in UK and Europe where there is no tipping. The servers make a proper wage. And tips if offered were refused.

Mostly, I tip because it is expected and the person can't survive in that job without tips. I leave little or no tip if there is a problem, but I always make sure the person knows what went wrong.

[RICHARD]

It's been a while since I had my hair cut.......

LOL, It was a freebie at the Pet Talk BBQ last year!

I always tip the gal who would cut my hair.

Why?

I am always complimented on my hair.

I HATE TO GET HAIRCUTS!

I have enough problems with my own locks, can you imagine touching other people's hair to make a living?

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My cousin was a hairdresser.

She told us some stories about people who showed up at her salon.

YIKES!

[Ginger's Mom]

The more I think about it the more I think we should get rid of the practice of tipping and get just have the company pay their employees a decent wage. It would cost poor tippers more (because of course prices would go up) but wouldn't really be much effect on the cost to good tippers.
Does anyone know how/where/when the practice of tipping started?

[anna_66]

Well I couldn't really find 'when' the practice started, but I did find out some stuff I didn't know while doing the search like where they don't tip, who to tip, and how much to tip...very interesting!

Tip-Wikiedia

[Catlady711]

Well I couldn't really find 'when' the practice started, but I did find out some stuff I didn't know while doing the search like where they don't tip, who to tip, and how much to tip...very interesting!

Tip-Wikiedia

That was a very interesting article.

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The word originates from the 16th century verb tip, which meant "to give unexpectedly"

In some jurisdictions, tipped workers qualify for a lower statutory minimum wage from the employer, and therefore may supplement deficient pay with tips. For example, the United States Internal Revenue Service (IRS) requires restaurant employers to ensure that the total tip income reported to them during any pay period is at least eight percent of their total receipts for that period. If the reported total is below eight percent, employers must allocate as income the difference between the actual tip income reported and eight percent of gross receipts. Therefore the IRS is implicitly assuming the average tip to be eight percent.