How long must I suffer?

[phesina]

Love and prayers are coming from us too. We all hope you will find an answer that solves the problem for both you and the cats.

I think that's a great suggestion of Candace's to get in touch with Nancy, after all the help she provided for Laura and Boo. Whatever you decide to do, we wish all of you the best.

God bless, hugs, and purrs,

Pat and cats

[jenluckenbach]

I thank you all for the support. Here are some of my thoughts.

I KNOW some of the reasons they spray. Maybe I do not know them all, and I suppose someone like Nancy might be able to help. But if the reasons are what I believe them to be, then there is no way for me to prevent the "jealousy".

I also have been considering the fact, that just like with us humans on an anti-depressant, one medication that used to work can fail after "x" amount of months/years. So, with that thought, hopefully a new medicine can help the situation.

I would never rehome a know sprayer, I simply could not guarrentee that once in a new environment, that the spraying would stop. I could not dump my problem on anyone and live the rest of my life wondering "what if" the cat would start to ruin their home.

So for now, I will vent my frustrations. But one day, there may not be such a good outcome.

Thank you again.

[Catty1]

Jen - if you check Laura's thread, you will see that she had a pretty good idea why Boo was being so ornery...but after Nancy made a connection with Boo, things changed very much for the better. It seems like Boo finally felt she had been "heard" - and that seems to have made the difference.

Maybe that's all your guys need.

I know you have spent money on meds and sheets and all kinds of stuff, some has worked for a bit, some hasn't.

Some more dollars on what seems to have worked consistently well for people here might be worth a try. For your sake as much as the cats'.

Just think about it, okay?

hugs

[Medusa]

Jen, you owe it to yourself to at least give it a try. Granted, it may not change the behavior but then again, it just may. It would improve the quality of life for your cats and more importantly, for you. People first. Some may not agree w/my people first philosophy but if it wasn't for you, your cats wouldn't have the wonderful home that they do have and your fosters wouldn't stand a chance. You won't be able to continue like this indefinitely; your home will become unlivable. It's the last line of your post that got to me: one day, there may not be such a good outcome. You're feeling the squeeze and no one doubts for one second how much you love your cats, fosters included, but you have to love yourself more. Several PTers have offered to help you w/the cost of a reading w/Nancy, so that objection doesn't hold water now. (Sorry, couldn't resist it.) And it isn't silly if it helps to resolve the problem. Give it a whirl. You've got nothing to lose and everything to gain.

[krazyaboutkatz]

Jen, when I had all of my cats read by Nancy, she just did a general reading on them and she only charged me $60 so that's only $10 per cat. Since she's 3 hours ahead of me, we had to schedule a time for her to call me. She was only able to do some of the cats in one call so she called me a second time. Now I know a lot more about what's going on with my cats. She wasn't really able to help me with Starr's medical problems though. Just explain your situation and see if she'll give you a multiple cat discount. It's worth a try. Good luck.