I am so sorry that you are dealing with this. I work for my local Council on Aging, and sadly, this is something that we deal with on an almost daily basis.

First, as Catty1 said, look into an eldercare locator. I am at home as I type this, and don't have that # at my fingertips. I will look it up when I get to the office tomorrow and PM you.

Another suggestion is to contact your local Alzheimer's Association. They will have a wealth of information for you. Has Dad been officially diagnosed with dementia or alzheimers? If not, try, try, try, to get him to the doctor for an assessment. You may even want to call his doctor and schedule an appointment with just the doc and you to discuss the situation.... then bring Dad in. We have found that aging parents will take suggestions much better from their doc than from their own children. (things such as "need to quit driving", "need to take this med"... etc.)

I know that every county in Indiana has a local Council on Aging (COA)... but I don't know which state you are in, or if there are COA's there. Since you have web access, look up www.aoa.gov and look at the site. It should be able to direct you to assistance in your area.


Please feel fre to PM me with any questions....I will be more than ahppy to help. I will look at some of my resources tomorrow and PM you some web addresses and/or phone numbers. Donna