How long must I suffer?

[AmberLee]

{{{Jen}}} No advice, just sending ~~~ loving vibes ~~~ as you struggle with this aggravating and exhausting set of challenges.

[krazyaboutkatz]

Jen, I'm so sorry to hear that you're having these problems. I can kind of relate but mine were never as bad. I still sometimes think that my life would've been much happier and easier if I had never adopted Starr. I also sometimes wish that I was only down to 2 cats again. Life was so much easier back then. But like you I love all of my furkids and they are a my family so in good times and in bad I'm there for them. I hope that something will work for them and that you'll get the much needed break that you deserve. Lots of prayers and positive thoughts are being sent your way. Please take care. (((HUGS)))

[catnapper]

Jen I know what you mean -- I have Allen with watery poops AND peeing outside the box. I put him on Clavimox in case he has some kind of bug, only to have to pick up watter poops and puke on top of it (I forgot he has a sensitive tummy) The vet is way out of the question right now since I'm making $150 a month payments for Pouncer's surgery.

Tuscan started him peeing. He's peeing everywhere, and its like a game to see where he'll pee today . I changed their food after Pouncer's surgery, and his diarrhea coincides perfectly with the new food. His body must have been used to the high fiber food. Less fiber = runny poo.

I have ONE cat doing this right now and I'm at wit's end. I have no idea how you're doing it with 4 potty problem cats right now!!!!

[Medusa]

I can feel your frustration and exhaustion w/every word, Jen. The house that I rented was the same way and when I bought this house, I made up my mind that either the pee cats stop or I would find homes for them. My RB Peeka was one of the worst offenders and I think it was because she hated Pigeon so much. Poor Pidge is the sweetest cat in the world and spent the majority of her time under my bed because Peeka stalked her constantly. Since that time, however, my vet introduced Clomicalm and it's been a life saver. Literally. The only suggestions I have are to give Clomicalm a whirl and shut off any parts of the house where you don't want your cats to go. I don't even allow mine to sleep w/me any more for two reasons: first and foremost, I need my sleep, good REM sleep. And I wasn't getting it because I was accommodating my cats. And second, they became territorial and then considered my bed/room their territory and started spraying there, too. The night that Peeka actually peed on ME, in my hair, was the last straw! I tried putting plastic on several things, too, to no avail, because my vet told me that cats hate plastic. Lovely. If you will just give Clomicalm a try and hopefully, it will kick in right away, you might have peace and not "pees" in your household. It's your house and if you consider your cats to be family, ok, but would you let your human family pee and poop wherever they want to? Of course not. And that's the question I had to ask myself and it was the turning point for me. Good luck, girl. I hope you get some relief soon.

[jazzcat]

(((HUGS))) Jen!
I can understand a little of what you are going through. I'm having behavioral issues with Rocky who sometimes marks the cat beds/furniture and health/behavior issues with Ripley who likes to pee and sometime poop in the dining room unless I watch closely and let him out in the garage to his "private" litter box . Thank goodness we put down Legato carpet squares in that rooms so I can just pull them up to clean or throw them out and replace if too bad. We got wise and replaced the old carpet with that stuff the last year with senile Disney in the house. It's not beautiful but it's better than the alternative.

I wish I knew some words of wisdom to help but I can tell you that your dark thoughts are normal. I know some people will probably blast me for saying this but there are days I wish Ripley would just make 'that' decision for me. He's 15 1/2 years old, whines and grumps like a true "grumpy old man", has potty issues, has barfing issues with an extremely sensitve stomach, constantly pulls his hair out with his OCD and often is just not pleasant to be around. He never was an affectionate cat and back in the day he was down right mean and often I was terrified of him after an attack - I still have scars. I just never in my wildest dreams thought he would live this long and from the way he acts he's going to out live us all!

Anyway, I just want you to know you I understand and you have my support and my sympathy.

[DrKym]

Jen I do understand, I have been there also. Just know you are being sent lots and lots of love and prayers from here. Whatever you decide I personally will support you and I am certain many other rescuers will also. There is a point where enough is enough and burnout happens. Seems to me, as with Kitties I have dealt with you are reaching that point....no matter what DO NOT BLAME yourself!


Love
Kym

[phesina]

Love and prayers are coming from us too. We all hope you will find an answer that solves the problem for both you and the cats.

I think that's a great suggestion of Candace's to get in touch with Nancy, after all the help she provided for Laura and Boo. Whatever you decide to do, we wish all of you the best.

God bless, hugs, and purrs,

Pat and cats

[jenluckenbach]

Her response (which was almost immediate) was
hi jen,
i charge 30 per animal. bascially, i can give you a very good idea of what is going through your cat's head. keep in mind that many times, unwanted behavior cannot be changed but can be explained. you send me a picture and any questions(please do not give info regarding your cat), cat's name and your phone number. i will call you halfway through the reading and then again when i am finished. (as long as you live in the united states).
take care,
nancy


My question to anyone who had a reading done is Did she CALL you?

Also, $30 is do-able, but multiply that by 3 cats (and maybe more) and I am not willing to spend that, sorry.

[slick]

Jen: I had Max read by Nancy but that was a year or two ago and the charge was $25 and because she didn't have a good LD plan to Canada, I called her because I can call anywhere in the States for 25 cents per call no matter how long the call lasts. We set up a time through email. Each call was at least an hour long.

Honestly, if you can swing it, do it! You will be so glad you did. Nancy is a marvel and I've recommended her to many other people. Also, I didn't have to mail her the money until after the reading was all done...kind of like the honour system. When complete, she sent me a followup email with everything she read from Max. Heck, even RB Speckles joined in on the conversation.

I would use her again in a heartbeat. Oh yes, and there was about a week and a bit between the first phone call and the second one.

Good luck and {{{hugs}}}

[DrKym]

Her response (which was almost immediate) was
hi jen,
i charge 30 per animal. bascially, i can give you a very good idea of what is going through your cat's head. keep in mind that many times, unwanted behavior cannot be changed but can be explained. you send me a picture and any questions(please do not give info regarding your cat), cat's name and your phone number. i will call you halfway through the reading and then again when i am finished. (as long as you live in the united states).
take care,
nancy


My question to anyone who had a reading done is Did she CALL you?

Also, $30 is do-able, but multiply that by 3 cats (and maybe more) and I am not willing to spend that, sorry.

Jen i would be willing to kick in for it.