Sas,

The first thing I want to do is give you a big

(((((HUG))))))

You are my all-time favorite PTer. I've admired your strength for a long time. I am so, SO sorry for all you've had to deal with. Dealing with an alcoholic is very difficult when the alcoholic doesn't realize they have a problem. They also don't like to be confronted about it. Imagine having to be a caretaker of that elderly alcoholic. THAT'S what I went through. I fought with him, threatened him, you name it. Nothing worked. So I threw up my hands and gave in. He died doing what he loved, DRINKING. I beat myself up for a long time. I was his enabler. Took 10 years for the guilt to disappear. Like he said, "I'm just waiting to cruise on outta here." That's exactly what he did.

Depression goes along with being a parent's caretaker. It sucks all the energy out of you. Been there, done that.

Life is WAY too short to not talk to anyone. I hope your sister realizes it before it's too late. Sas, until she hits rock bottom and seeks the help she desperately needs, there's not much you can do except be there when she does (hit rock bottom).

I've PM'd you with my phone number. Please feel free to call me anytime. I'm there for you.

Donna