Listen to your heart and dont rush yourselves. We made the mistake of trying to force ourselves right away. My husband was desperate to help me.. to try and mend my heart when I lost Jake and we adopted 2 lil baby girls. I only had them a week when I had to have them both put down due to distemper and parvo. Later I realized that I had not grown attatched to them in a week as I had with Jake and I know it was because I just wasnt ready. It was several months later when what I believe in my heart was Jake leading me to Tucker and my heart has started healing. Next month it will be a year since I lost Jake and sometimes it seems like it was just yesterday The first one we adopted after we were married was Pebbles and we had her for 13 years.. it took us 2 years to be able to bring ourselves to adopt again. So just listen to your hearts and give yourselves time to grieve.. there is no shame in that. when I posted here before I left a link to Jakes Story. It took me awhile to write that and it took a lot of tears to complete it but it was worth it in the end. I sat back and read it and realized all that Jake gave to me in such a short time. So you might try that.. Just sit down and start to write. Start at the begining middle or end.. it does not matter.. just put your memories into words and share them. Cry your eyes out while writting it dont matter either because by sitting down and writting it out will bring back the good times and the laughs you had, it will help to focus on all the happy times and in that you can celebrate life and know that it is ok to let go and that your baby is not really gone! You still have the leasons learned and the love in your heart!

Hugz and understanding
Jessica