R called twice this morning. I just let calls go to VM.

The first one - he had read my emails and wanted to discuss the issues with me. He honestly does, I know that - but it won't do any good.

Second - he realized I was not answering my phone for some reason, still wanted me to call him. There was a quaver in his voice a couple of times that I never had heard.

Here is how to NOT enable: Let him hit his bottom, I don't run to rescue his pain.

I did email saying why indirect contact was best for me, that I know he meant well, and that I was taking a resume out this afternoon. That I was pro-Candace surviving and not anti-anyone else.

I added that "I just can't anymore. I can't do this anymore." The company is sick and dysfunctional right now.

This is not easy. But it is the only way that things might get better.

First, it is I that has to get better.