Tango

[.sarah]

Still thinking of you ...

[finn's mom]

I can't believe I'm reading this. Tango has been one of my very favorite dogs on Pet Talk and my heart is broken at the news of her death. I am numb and don't even understand why completely. Please know my thoughts are with you, I'm sorry I'm just now seeing this...I don't visit the site much anymore.

[Tollers-n-Dobes]

Thanks again everybody. I'm doing much better today compared to the rest of the week, though I'm still angry/sad that this had to happen to Tango. She was such a good girl. It's hard to think that this time last Sunday was the last time I'd ever throw the ball for her again. Bed time is without a doubt the most difficult part of my day. People keep telling me that "she knew it was her time to go", and I shouldn't feel bad (though I understand they don't mean anything bad by it). She really didn't have any idea though. She looked terrified and confused, with a face that said "help me, I don't know what's happening".

I feel horrible any time I do anything with Dance for some reason, be it combing her, playing with her, taking her for a walk, whatever. I don't understand why and I wish that would go away. I want to be able to have fun with a dog again and just enjoy their company without feeling so bad about what happened.

[dukedogsmom]

I think you're trying to rush yourself through this. It's a long process. I know you feel guilt and that's completely normal. I know exactly how you feel. I had a similar experience with Duke and it's not a good memory. But, in our hearts, we knew what we had to do. As I often say, it's the last gift of love we can give them. Tango understands now and will always be with you. Come here to write as often as you like.

[crow_noir]

I doubt very much that it was. She was a very young dog. All she knew was that she was young and *something* happened to her. Of course she was terrified. In the wild what happened to her probably would have meant a slow painful death.

Bodies are like machines though, they're not perfect.

Thanks again everybody. I'm doing much better today compared to the rest of the week, though I'm still angry/sad that this had to happen to Tango. She was such a good girl. It's hard to think that this time last Sunday was the last time I'd ever throw the ball for her again. Bed time is without a doubt the most difficult part of my day. People keep telling me that "she knew it was her time to go", and I shouldn't feel bad (though I understand they don't mean anything bad by it). She really didn't have any idea though. She looked terrified and confused, with a face that said "help me, I don't know what's happening".

I feel horrible any time I do anything with Dance for some reason, be it combing her, playing with her, taking her for a walk, whatever. I don't understand why and I wish that would go away. I want to be able to have fun with a dog again and just enjoy their company without feeling so bad about what happened.

Tango was obviously very special to you. What you're feeling is what i consider to be a form of jealousy. I felt it horribly after King went. I really should have waited longer to foster after King went. I felt so much hatred and anger towards the foster dog... as if it were her fault King had died. ... Even though she didn't come until after he was gone. I wanted nothing to do with her. It's been almost a year... and I still feel that same way sometimes. Would you be able to have someone take care of Dance for you for about a month so that you can mourn? I think it would be really beneficial for your healing and for your future bond with Dance if you didn't have her around right now. Just until these feelings calm down for you. It might be helpful to sort out your head and just take some time for yourself.

*hugs*

[sammy101]

Oh my, i am so sorry
What a beautiful girl...i am truly going to miss seeing her on PT.

Rest Easy Tango

{{{Hugs}}}

[Tollers-n-Dobes]

Thanks again everyone.

crow_noir, it's not Dance that I'm angry with. I love her, and I know it's not her fault at all. She's a great pup, a little irritating at times, but still a great pup. I certainly wouldn't want her to go anywhere. I guess I feel I'm just sort of preventing myself from becoming too attached to her for some reason, and I'm not sure why. It's really hard to explain.

[dab_20]

Oh my gosh, Devan, I'm absolutely shocked to hear this. Never would I have guessed... I always enjoyed hearing about Tango and looking at all her pictures. She was so full of personality, you could tell by her photos that she was such a happy dog.

I had that kind of guilt when my RB Missy passed away. I felt awful everytime I did anything with Molli, as if I am betraying Missy for still loving another dog. Although, now I realize that I wasn't betraying her or doing anything wrong. The pain will get easier. (((HUGS)))
My thoughts to you today. Rest in peace, Tango, play hard at the RB.

[pnance]

I haven't been on PT for awhile, but to come back and see this thread is heartbreaking. I'm sure Tango is up running and jumping on the bridge with all the others we've had to say goodbye to.

[K9karen]

Thanks again everyone.

crow_noir, it's not Dance that I'm angry with. I love her, and I know it's not her fault at all. She's a great pup, a little irritating at times, but still a great pup. I certainly wouldn't want her to go anywhere. I guess I feel I'm just sort of preventing myself from becoming too attached to her for some reason, and I'm not sure why. It's really hard to explain.

Devan, I felt the same way when I got Logan. I swore I would never, ever get attached to her, like I did Cody. Now, I sing "you made me love you..I didn't want to do it" (an old song you may not know).

I'm no shrink, but what you're feeling is perfectly normal. I felt "deserted" when I lost Cody. I felt betrayed although it wasn't his fault, of course. But the pain was so severe, and the memories, happy but excruciating. I will be totally honest, it takes a while to recover, but with each passing day, it does get better. Your wound is still deep. My bet is that you gave Tango infinite love and attention. We all know you did. You musn't think, in your grief, that you "shoulda, woulda, coulda" because you did. Nothing we can say will heal your heart right now. But Dance needs you too, and you will feel close to her when you least expect it.

Whether anyone thinks I'm loony, or not, I will admit I've had "Cody sightings" in various ways, and altho it's been 4 years, he's always with me. Tango wrangled into our hearts and will always be with us too, Devan. *Hugs*

[Ginger's Mom]

I have to agree with k9Karen. I got Ginger very quickly after my Peaches went to the RB, and was sure that we were never going to connect. As a matter of fact for about a year I seriously thought of getting a second dog, because Ginger wasn't enough for me (she wasn't filling that hole in my heart). But that bond will develop. You can't stop it.

[Alysser]

. She looked terrified and confused, with a face that said "help me, I don't know what's happening".

That statement made me cry. I am still in shock, everytime I read this board, it's still hits me so hard. Tango was such a pretty girl. I am so sorry.

[cyber-sibes]

Oh Devan, I know how you feel. I'm pm'ing you.
Pat

[lute]

I'm so sorry for your loss. Tango was a specail girl. Run like crazy at the bridge Tango!

You did what you knew was best. There is no reason what so ever for anyone to be mad at you. You made the effort and I know you would have saved Tango if you could.