Are guys this way? (relationship advice?)

[moosmom]

Speaking from experience, here's a bit of advice. He told you not to worry. I think if you worry TOO much, you're gonna scare him away.

[DJFyrewolf36]

My hubby is rather vocal about how he feels sometimes, sometimes he just does things he knows will make me feel better. He has a good idea of what exactly will make me go from feeling cruddy to happy, I guess thats why almost 5 years later we are just like best friends.


I think the important thing is that you make each other happy. The how of it doesn't really matter lol.

[Cataholic]

This obviously bothers you, and has bothered you for awhile. I can remember you asking things like this months ago. So, I say this: if something bothers you- whether it is big, little, trivial, monumental, etc., have it addressed, preferably by Mike. He essentially has blown you off with the "you worry too much" or "don't worry" type comments. It is up to you to decide if that is acceptable or not.

I see in your posts what I see in many people's relationships ten years down the line- needs of yours not being addressed. If it matters to you, your feelings about it *should* matter to him.

But, having said that, you seem fraught with insecurity about this relationship. Rightfully felt or not, this is *your* issue to address, not yours and Mike's. That is an area I would encourage *you* to explore, and NOT seek affirmations from Mike.

[CountryWolf07]

Thanks, everyone. It *is* my issue. I honestly have to admit it, this is my first long serious relationship, and sometimes I don't know what I'm doing. All I know is that we just get along and learn from as we go down the road. When we said we liked each other in the beginning, we didn't push anything, everything just fell right into its place, and here we are, still together. We are happy with each other. We just fit so well & we have this chemistry that has never left. I think, with things like that, when they happen unexpectedly in the middle of our busy lives, I think it's crazy but, things happen for a reason. All I can say is, I'm learning from it, and I am enjoying this ride, and I realize, being in a relationship isn't easy! It is never supposed to be easy, but difficult in one way or another. BUT I CAN say this - I am lucky to have a good guy, a guy I have a lot in common with, we get along so well, we have this amazing chemistry, we don't have to outdo to impress eachother, we just are satisfied. Honestly sometimes we act like we're "married" to each other. He's one of a kind and I have never met anyone else like him at all. =)