Are guys this way? (relationship advice?)

**moosmom** · 09-04-2007, 01:42 PM

Jessika his the nail right on the head!

Actions DO speak louder than words. It's when he STOPS all that is when you need to worry.

He sounds like a keeper to me!

**buttercup132** · 09-04-2007, 01:47 PM

My boy is the same way too. Oddly enough his name is also Mike and we started dating around then too (Febuary).

**CountryWolf07** · 09-04-2007, 02:02 PM

Haha, oh my gosh, that joke just made me laugh! I do understand that action speaks a lot louder than words do; because we both treat each other that way. Mike doesn't call or text me; because he knows I'd rather talk on-line because of my hearing impairment. He is very caring about that part. He makes sure I'm included or whatnot; he tells me what I missed out on and whatnot. He knows my favorite things; he buys me iced tea once in a while, just because, if we stop at a gas station and I don't ask for anything, he gets me something anyways.

When we are in the truck, listening to music; he sings along to the songs he really likes; basically just to make me laugh out loud/smile. I do the same thing with him, and we just can make each other smile when we need to.

Last night before I left, I was putting my things in the bag; and Mike just leaned onto me behind me like putting his weight on me and I start laughing and I told him to get up because I'm going to fall over & that he weighs more than me. =) We always kiss good-bye but we never kiss hello, but it has always been that way since we started dating.

One thing though, would it be wrong to ask how he feels about me, since that I'm leaving.. or I shouldn't, because every time I have asked how we are doing.. and he would give me that look and just say "Stop worrying. We're fine." or I get the "You think way too much".. but the last time I asked that, was probably 3 months ago.

**Rachel** · 09-04-2007, 02:42 PM

If you put all the things you've indicated about your relationship with Mike on a list and have the list divided into two columns designated Positive Indications and Negative Indications, I see that Positive Indications list being quite a long one and the Negative Indications being oh so short.

Personally, I would not ask him how he feels about you. What you really want is for him to ask you how you feel.

**CountryWolf07** · 09-04-2007, 06:12 PM

I gotta admit one thing, though. Mike never texts or calls me every day, and that kind of bugs me quite a little bit; because it might mean.. he doesn't think of me, but I know he does. I know that I will be talking to him every day when I am back at Ohio State when I have time to. That means, by IM or phone. One thing though, we always say good night when it's time to go to bed. I guess that's all it matters.

I still don't know what it is, that made me fall for him from day one. I don't know what it is that made Mike notice me that day, too. Whatever it is, we are still together, almost 8-9 months later.. it's something.

**moosmom** · 09-04-2007, 06:42 PM

Speaking from experience, here's a bit of advice. He told you not to worry. I think if you worry TOO much, you're gonna scare him away.

**DJFyrewolf36** · 09-04-2007, 07:15 PM

My hubby is rather vocal about how he feels sometimes, sometimes he just does things he knows will make me feel better. He has a good idea of what exactly will make me go from feeling cruddy to happy, I guess thats why almost 5 years later we are just like best friends.

I think the important thing is that you make each other happy. The how of it doesn't really matter lol.