There's a joke I thought of - and it may help:

A couple who have been married for 50 years go to a marriage counsellor.

The wife, whose idea this was, starts: "He never says he loves me! He never tells me that at all, even all the years we've been married!"

The counsellor asks the man for his view.

"Heck," says hubby, "I told her I loved her when I married her, and I ain't changed my mind yet!"

(There are enough men that use verbal BS, and their actions don't match.)