Are guys this way? (relationship advice?)

[CountryWolf07]

Even if we both haven't said those three little words yet??

[Jessika]

Actions speak louder than words, in my opinion.

Personally HJ and I aren't that way, but the relationship with my parents used to be. We never told each other we loved each other, but you know you just KNEW they did otherwise they wouldn't have done all those things for me. Of course our relationship is different now but it didn't always used to be that way.

I think he's trying not to make a big deal out of you leaving because he doesn't want to think about it and get too upset about when you're gone.

[CathyBogart]

My man is the same way. He does still tell me how he feels sometimes, but he's more inclined to give me a hug at a moment I most need it, pick up my favorite candy bar on his way home, turn on my favorite TV shows even though I KNOW he doesn't like them, and do a million other little things to show me he cares.

[Catty1]

There's a joke I thought of - and it may help:

A couple who have been married for 50 years go to a marriage counsellor.

The wife, whose idea this was, starts: "He never says he loves me! He never tells me that at all, even all the years we've been married!"

The counsellor asks the man for his view.

"Heck," says hubby, "I told her I loved her when I married her, and I ain't changed my mind yet!"

(There are enough men that use verbal BS, and their actions don't match.)

[moosmom]

Jessika his the nail right on the head!

Actions DO speak louder than words. It's when he STOPS all that is when you need to worry.

He sounds like a keeper to me!

[buttercup132]

My boy is the same way too. Oddly enough his name is also Mike and we started dating around then too (Febuary).

[CountryWolf07]

Haha, oh my gosh, that joke just made me laugh! I do understand that action speaks a lot louder than words do; because we both treat each other that way. Mike doesn't call or text me; because he knows I'd rather talk on-line because of my hearing impairment. He is very caring about that part. He makes sure I'm included or whatnot; he tells me what I missed out on and whatnot. He knows my favorite things; he buys me iced tea once in a while, just because, if we stop at a gas station and I don't ask for anything, he gets me something anyways.

When we are in the truck, listening to music; he sings along to the songs he really likes; basically just to make me laugh out loud/smile. I do the same thing with him, and we just can make each other smile when we need to.

Last night before I left, I was putting my things in the bag; and Mike just leaned onto me behind me like putting his weight on me and I start laughing and I told him to get up because I'm going to fall over & that he weighs more than me. =) We always kiss good-bye but we never kiss hello, but it has always been that way since we started dating.

One thing though, would it be wrong to ask how he feels about me, since that I'm leaving.. or I shouldn't, because every time I have asked how we are doing.. and he would give me that look and just say "Stop worrying. We're fine." or I get the "You think way too much".. but the last time I asked that, was probably 3 months ago.

[Rachel]

If you put all the things you've indicated about your relationship with Mike on a list and have the list divided into two columns designated Positive Indications and Negative Indications, I see that Positive Indications list being quite a long one and the Negative Indications being oh so short.

Personally, I would not ask him how he feels about you. What you really want is for him to ask you how you feel.