Are guys this way? (relationship advice?)

[Catlady711]

My hubby is the same way. We've been together for 11 years and he used to be quite verbal about his feelings in the beginning too, now he doesn't say too much about anything. So I guess that's just a 'guy thing'. lol

[Karen]

I don't think it's necessarily a "guy" thing, but it is something that some people - male or female - just do. Some folks just are more comfortable "showing" than "telling" I guess. Still, when you're physically apart, he'll have to go back to more telling, won't he?

[CountryWolf07]

Even if we both haven't said those three little words yet??

[Jessika]

Actions speak louder than words, in my opinion.

Personally HJ and I aren't that way, but the relationship with my parents used to be. We never told each other we loved each other, but you know you just KNEW they did otherwise they wouldn't have done all those things for me. Of course our relationship is different now but it didn't always used to be that way.

I think he's trying not to make a big deal out of you leaving because he doesn't want to think about it and get too upset about when you're gone.

[CathyBogart]

My man is the same way. He does still tell me how he feels sometimes, but he's more inclined to give me a hug at a moment I most need it, pick up my favorite candy bar on his way home, turn on my favorite TV shows even though I KNOW he doesn't like them, and do a million other little things to show me he cares.

[Catty1]

There's a joke I thought of - and it may help:

A couple who have been married for 50 years go to a marriage counsellor.

The wife, whose idea this was, starts: "He never says he loves me! He never tells me that at all, even all the years we've been married!"

The counsellor asks the man for his view.

"Heck," says hubby, "I told her I loved her when I married her, and I ain't changed my mind yet!"

(There are enough men that use verbal BS, and their actions don't match.)

[moosmom]

Jessika his the nail right on the head!

Actions DO speak louder than words. It's when he STOPS all that is when you need to worry.

He sounds like a keeper to me!

[buttercup132]

My boy is the same way too. Oddly enough his name is also Mike and we started dating around then too (Febuary).