First - pray for her. She sure doesn't have any friends.

If you do pray, ask the Big Critter upstairs for an idea...and turn it over.

When I "turn someone over", I imagine turning that person to God's attention - giving God the job of looking after that person!

One idea just came to me - pay her a genuine compliment. That can be as little as her hair looks nice today, good colour on her, etc.

Try one wee one every day.

I have worked with people that drive me nuts...and it is really hard to have compassion for them.

Bear with me - just recalled this: A few weeks ago, our priest was talking about a time he was at another church. He was giving communion. At the end of the line was a man who really did not like the church or Greg(priest) or life - but had come up to have communion for some reason.

Greg saw him, and returned much the same feeling to this guy that they guy felt for him. He was thinking about how much he disliked this man, and how wrong that was, but there he was in the communion line - when suddenly this thought came to him, as if spoken from God's viewpoint:

"I really, really love this person."

Greg thought about it. He never said what exactly happened after - but with a new point of view, HE felt better.

I've run on too long...good luck with this!