First, talk to your vet about this, and see what they say.

You said she has always been like this, but I know from experience when the claws get bigger, it is NOT fun any more!

Second, consider contacting Nancy Efrusy. She is a pet psychic and has done amazing things for other people here on Pet Talk!

Her email is [email protected] Her rate is really good - $30 I think - and she doesn't need the money up front. A pic of your kitty is what she needs. She will also discuss her reading on the phone with you, which is more detailed than the email one she sends.

THIRD - I mentioned the psychic because she might be able to tell you if getting a playmate for Bella is a good idea. But make it a kitten about her age and size!

FOURTH - it might be time for discipline. I am no expert...but if she attacks your hands when you pick her up, (for example), hold her paws and head still for just a moment, and say NO without yelling. Let her know who the 'boss cat' is. Put her down as soon as you say this.

Other folks here will have great ideas...I hope you find a solution soon. Does she have a cat tower/scartching post?