I agree with kuhio98. The ones that are of age, can treat you better or just GET OUT! That is YOUR home and anyone over legal age would be considered "guests!" in my book.

I have backed away from men I have dated because of their kids behavior. My thinking was the kids were like that because they were allowed to be that way so there was no use in me pointing it out to their father. Behavior I wouldn't tolerate so it was easy to just back out and slam that door...

You husband needs to take a stand in this. He either approves of them treating you like that, or he disapproves. He needs to stand by you and set down the rules for HIS kids.... If he won't stand with you and back you up, it is a loosing battle and you either put up with it or leave...