I agree with catty, earn their respect first.

My dad feared the whole stepmother thing, so he refused to date period while my sister & I still need him. I tried to get him to date but he refused. Its been 13yrs & he still wont date anyone. Even though hes 2000km away from my sister & I. He said Cristine is still in school, so she still needs him.

I don't think he'll ever date anyone ever again, because my sister & I will always need him, because hes dad. I'm hoping after grandma passes away (not trying to be Morbid, I love my grandma) & Cristine is out of school, he'll feel like he can meet someone. I know hes lonely because he calls us all the time & hes very family orientated, as thats how he raised me & I'm lonely as heck, so I'm sure after 13yrs, he has to be really lonely.


So no matter which route you go its hard. Atleast you & your husband know your there for the kids, so if something BAD happens your there to help.

Also look at me, I don't get a long with my own mother. I graduated from high school a year early by taking extra classes so I could go to college faster. I disslike my mother to the point I haven't seen, or spoken to her since 2003. So its not just stepparents thats have it hard.

Hope that makes you feel a little bit better.