He came home last night. He wouldn't talk to anybody, except to say that he's only home because he wants the money he needs for school
I assume there was no apology somewhere in there, right?

I'd change the locks and have HUBBY tell him that you're done. Lizbud is right, this didn't just happen overnight. This has been brewing for a LONG time. It's time sonny boy learn on his own just how difficult it is to be an adult.