Oh Great! ALL the "Donation to Roxyluvsme13" threads have been DELETED!

[Marigold2]

As in every story there is much hidden and not said. Perhaps this girls mom has deeper problems then we know. Perhaps for her it's a struggle to find happiness on a daily basis.

If you are raised by someone who is dishonest, lazy, abuses drugs, drinks, you don't have a good role model. I am not saying her mom does any of these things I am speaking in general. Still if this girl's home life is unhappy she will have a hard time. Sometimes one person is all you have and if that person is not a good parent you feel very much alone in the world.

None of us really knows how bad it is for her or how good. If she has a snotty attitude that could be a defense against pain. We all know that many angry people are pain ridden and this is how they cope.

I want to end by saying I hope all goes well for her and the pets and that mom and daughter gets some therapy.

[finn's mom]

I have never read any of the threads asking for donations. Her threads were too young for me to enjoy from the very beginning. I hope they get help, as it sounds like it is needed. I do hope they will rehome the pets they have and focus on themselves and their needs.

[Catty1]

I remembered this from a 12-step meeting ages ago...that there are often a lot of animals in dysfunctional families. Why? The kids receive love, unconditional at that. Her screen name says 'Roxy loves me', not 'I love Roxy'.

Another trait of DFs is that the child winds up having to act as a parent or an adult, the responsible one. She has said she could never leave because her mom needs her. What about what BRI needs?

I hope when Bri returns to school she will see the school counsellor, and find out that the behaviour she puts up with is not normal or loving (although her mom loves her, I am sure), and that it affects her badly.

Bri - we learn from our parents. If you ever have kids, you will treat them the way your mom treats you. The only way to prevent that is to start changing yourself now. The school counsellors are there to help, to talk to - and they don't gossip (it's against the law).

You deserve better, the best. Go for it.

hugs