Oh Great! ALL the "Donation to Roxyluvsme13" threads have been DELETED!

[catnapper]

I'm sorry.... this is utterly ridiculous.

When I was in my financial mess last year, I did receive donations. I never asked for them but they came and they made my year. I was honored and blessed to have people trust me like that. Did I take their cash then say "oh cool, now instead of paying $350 towards medical bills I can now go to the mall!" No. I paid off some late bills and considered myself the most humbled woman in the world. I would have NEVER bought anything remotely unnecessary at the time.... heck I'm still that way! I'd be SO ASHAMED to receive money then pay $90 for a pile of outfits, let alone one outfit. And if I did, I certainly wouldn't be arrogant enough to post it to the very same people who gave me the money! Its like saying "yeah, thanks for the extra cash - now we don't have to waste our money on important stuff. We get to use our money for fun things!" Appalling!

I never asked for help yet received it. I am eternally grateful. I will always offer help to others whenever I can do so. Thats what life is all about. But some people come and take advantage of other people's generosity and ruin it for the genuine people out there.

anyone who donated THEIR hard earned money has a right to be outraged. They gave their money because they were concerned about the health and welfare of an animal. They also cared for a young PTer who was powerless to change the circumstances. They thought they were helping someone who needed it. They gave whatever they could out of true human goodness. They didn't expect anything in return, except perhaps gratitude and the good feeling of helping someone get out of a bad financial problem. But that good feeling is ripped out from underneath you when you realize the person you helped is basically saying they won't change their financial carelessness... they refuse to get themselves out of their mess.

I actually feel sorry for Bri... she's never going to change her life. They're always going to be one step ahead of evictions and power-cut-offs. and not because they aren't making enough money, but because they can't make responsible choices with their money.

[Karen]

I have written to Bri. I have asked if she or her mom is getting any sort of counseling. The situation is not hopeless, though. Bri is young, and can learn from her mother's experiences, and as she ages, will gain perspective on things. And even her mother might improve with external, professional help.

[Jessika]

I've been following the threads for awhile now... and I must say, for face-value, it makes me sad. Just... sad. I won't go into a long speech, I won't point fingers or point blame, I'm just really sad that there are animals out there that need care and apparently aren't getting the care they need because of financial problems. I wish the best for these animals and everyone involved, and pray everything works out for everyone in the end.

[Catsnclay]

I don't know the person in this thread, but have just recently learned, you cannot just 'give' someone money with the thinking that they will spend it either the way they say or the way that YOU think they should spend it.

When you give someone money/donation - in any amount, then be prepared for them to spend it on whatever THEY see fit.


My lesson was learned the hard way, so therefore I now do not give money to any PERSON, only to organizations, and even they use it as they please.